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How to get off the entrepreneurial emotional roller coaster

September 5, 2017 by Kori

I saw a post on Instagram today that defined an entrepreneur as a crazy person who is dedicated to pursuing their dreams.

I’ll admit that at times entrepreneurship is darn right crazy. Some days you feel you are on top of the world. You are working with ideal clients, connecting with fellow entrepreneurs, sharing your message, and having an impact. Other days, you are wondering why the heck you decided to do this and convince yourself that just having a job would be so much easier.

It is a rollercoaster ride of emotions. You are in charge of you and your business, whether you feel like it or not. And there are definitely days when you really don’t feel like it.

Sometimes you will see this as a sign to check in to see what’s off. Other times, you’ll just want to hide and wish it would all go away. Every time, you get to choose. Curiosity or criticism? Kind introspection or critical denunciation?

You won’t always choose the high road. There are times when you will choose to beat yourself up, wonder what the heck is wrong with you, why isn’t this working, why you aren’t progressing and swim in frustration and overwhelm.

Other days, you may choose, somehow, to trust it is all working out and that maybe loosening your choke hold on your business would actually allow it to breathe a little. You’ll remember other times in your life when you were obsessed with something and remind yourself that when you let it go, it thrived. Your obsession was taking the life out of it (and making you crazy at the same time).

When you stopped worrying about it, found something that caught your attention and made you feel good, it developed on its own.

It’s like planting a garden. You can’t plant a seed and then stand out there incessantly demanding the plant to grow. You tend it to and water it, but you trust it will grow in its right time. If you worry about it, overwater it, over tend to it, you kill it.

The same is true for your business. You have to take care of it (and take care of you as well), but you have also let it go. You have to trust you are doing the work necessary to grow your business and then you need to go do something else. Something that lights you up that is unrelated to your business.

When I stopped obsessing about my weight, my body found its best natural state of being. When I stopped worrying about whether I would find the right partner for me, he came along.

I came to peace with my body and with being single. I filled myself and my days with meaningful work, supportive friendships, and activities I enjoyed. I stopped striving. I settled into being me and being ok right where I was.

When you come to this place of self-acceptance, that’s when everything changes. You are open to receiving instead of giving off the energy of desperation. You are no longer looking for something or someone to fill that hole, you fill that hole. You can sit with yourself, with every emotion, in every situation, and you can know you are going to be just fine.

The next time you are on the rollercoaster, see if you can allow yourself to enjoy the ride. Ask yourself what you need to learn or what you might be getting from the ride. Bring your curiosity out. Then, as a kid at an amusement park would, go jump on another ride. Engage in another activity, go outside, dance, sing, play, do something that shifts your energy and brings you back to a state of trust. Kids don’t worry if they’ll have fun at an amusement park. They know it’s going to be fun. Drop the worry. Lean into faith. Lead with love. Now, smile and know it is exactly as it is meant to be.
Are you ready to get off the roller coaster and design your own ride? I can help with that.

When you see yourself differently, you become limitless

August 29, 2017 by Kori

What is the story you are telling that is keeping you stuck?

Humans are storytellers. We tell ourselves stories all day every day.

Sometimes these stories are made up in order to make us feel better. Sometimes they are designed to keep us safe. Often, they limit what we are capable of.

I used to have a whole story about the University of Denver. When I was in high school, it was seen as the school for the rich. I wasn’t rich so I never considered it an option for me. I pursued the more economical colleges and scholarships, ROTC, and military academies.

When I decided I wanted to go to graduate school, the University of Denver was one of three schools that offered what I wanted to study. I still thought it was out of my reach, that I didn’t belong there, that it wasn’t a school for people like me. The buildings and grounds were impressive and looked expensive with their copper roofs. Surely this is only for the elite, I told myself.

The more research I did, however, the more DU became appealing. I made an appointment to meet with one of the professors in the program I wanted to pursue. I discovered she was like me. She didn’t come from a wealthy family. She had a strong desire to make a difference in the world and she believed one of the best places to begin was right where you were. I slowly started to see myself as a student there. When I was accepted into the program, I still had some reservations. Once I went to my first few classes, it changed. The professors were amazing. They were brilliant and personable. They cared deeply about their work and their students. I started to feel more comfortable on campus – like I even belonged there.

Five years later, I applied to teach a course as an adjunct professor there. Now as I walk around campus, I don’t see myself as an outsider but as a changemaker. Change must begin within. I learned to see myself differently and to allow myself to be open to new opportunities and experiences, no matter how far out of reach they may seem.

It wasn’t only DU that I put on my list of off-limit places. I used to do the same with nicer restaurants. “I can’t go there. I don’t belong there.” I told myself.

Why? Who says?

A few years ago, I challenged myself to go to one of the nicest hotels in town. I sat at the bar alone. I ordered an expensive cocktail and let myself belong there, even if it was for that short period of time.

It’s just a place. I’m just a person. I don’t have to let my old story have power over me.

We often take ourselves out of the game before we’ve even played the game. Why? Because we have created some story that we aren’t good enough; we don’t have the right education, training, connections, clothes, social status, confidence, body, you name it.

What if, instead, you gave yourself permission to belong wherever you are simply because you believe in you (even if it’s just for a moment)? Belonging ultimately comes from within – a sense of being ok in the skin you’re in no matter where you may be.

Where are you limiting what is available to you? This could be an experience, a place, a relationship, a training, a job, etc.? What part of your old identity and story could you let go of?

Who is the person who doesn’t limit themselves? What does she look like? What does he feel? What actions do they take? Where do they spend time? What places do they frequent? Who do they surround themselves with?

What can you do TODAY to step into that person? (That person is YOU.)

You can write a new story, right here, right now.

When you change the way you see the world, your world changes. When you change the way you see yourself, you change.

I’d love to hear from you. What did you do that challenged your old self and allowed you to step into the powerful version of you?

P.S. Are you ready to write a new story of your life and business? Book your strategy session with me and let’s begin!

Do this ONE thing today to transform your relationship with money

August 10, 2017 by Kori

Yesterday afternoon, I conducted a workshop on transforming your relationship with money. This a topic that goes deep. We don’t often give much thought to where our thoughts and beliefs about money come from. When your financial situation is not what you desire it to be, when you have anxiety and stress around money, that is a clear sign that it is time to dig into your relationship with money.

In the workshop, every participant uncovered something new about themselves and the role that money played in their lives. Often, money is made to be the ultimate power and is placed on a pedestal. This is unhealthy.

Your security does not come from money. Your security comes from within. Money may come and go, it is YOU that determines your sense of security regardless of your financial situation.
That is a lot of the work the participants delved into last night – releasing the power money held over them and shifting to a place of reclaiming their own power. It was beautiful.
That is the work we all must do. We must own our power, no matter what is going on around us.

I would love to offer this training to you if you are interested. I have offered this training virtually before and would be happy to do so again.
If you would like to attend a virtual training of Transforming your Relationship with Money, please contact me and let me know so I can schedule one in the coming weeks.

Until then, something you can do TODAY to transform your relationship with money is to write out 25 ways to feel wealthy NOW, regardless of your financial situation. This puts you back in control as you begin to notice wealth is so much more than dollar bills.

And, start visualizing your ideal life DAILY.

Also, check out these three daily mindset shifts to attract more money into your life. http://moneymindset.korigouge.com/