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Masterful Mindset Coach

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Cheap and Easy Ain’t Cheap or Easy

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You want to make some changes in your life. Be more decisive. Have better boundaries. Change your self-defeating thoughts and behaviors.

So you look for a quick fix. There must be something cheap and easy that will get me out of this rut. 

So maybe you buy a course or enroll in a lower investment program that sounds appealing – change your life in 30 days – voila!

Only it doesn’t work. So you might go about your way and then get drawn to another program or course. This one is different though! It’s so pretty and shiny and full of great promises.

And you repeat the pattern of dipping your toe in the pool of change yet never truly diving in head first, fully committed, willing to take a chance on real change, which requires real risk and investment. 

When you walk around thinking change should be quick and easy, all you do is delay change, which is not cheap nor easy because years go by and you find yourself in this same place of discontent, restlessness, and disconnection. 

Living a life that doesn’t light you up, fill you with a sense of purpose and meaning, and allow you to express the legacy you are here to create is living a slow death.

A life of quiet desperation which is actually quite costly. You don’t feel good about yourself so you don’t take very good care of yourself. You get sick often. You lash out at your partner and kids. You isolate yourself from your friends. You distance yourself from your family. You spend a lot of time feeling depressed which leads to any number of distractions from alcohol to food to overshopping to social media bingeing, or years of buying antidepressants and therapy, not to mention years of your life passing you in a low grade form of misery that you’ll never get back. This creates even more self-loathing, frustration, and discouragement. 

It’s not easy and is much harder actually than changing would be. 

True change requires commitment, great risk, tremendous courage, and incredible determination. 

If it were cheap and easy, we’d all be rich, thin, and happy but much of the adult population suffer from some form of anxiety or depression.

What if you could be an example for your children or family or community about what it takes to make lasting changes in your life? That you didn’t give them simple platitudes to just believe in themselves and viola their life is everything they wanted it to be. 

Of course, self-belief is a huge component of change but it’s much more than just that. It takes a deeper level of transformation in every area of your life. 

And, when you do the work to reprogram yourself, the changes you make last. It isn’t a quick fix – it’s a whole new operating system, which runs more effectively and efficiently and is an authentic reflection of who you truly are as you have now shed all the layers that have kept you stuck for so many years. 

What emerges is nothing short of miraculous. A new way of being, believing, thinking, and seeing. A whole new life. 

It’s not cheap. It’s not easy. And you don’t want your life to be either – you want the rich challenge of the adventure, to create and live in a state of flow, creativity, and prosperity, and to live with absolute conviction in who you are and what you are here to do and know with certainty that everything, everything, is preparing you for just that. 

I guide my clients on the greatest adventure of their lives out of anxiety and confusion into being decisive action-takers with clear, firm boundaries, speaking their unfiltered truth, living in their full potential and authentic power with deep meaning, prosperity, freedom, and joy.


Let’s start your adventure together. Book your call with me here.

Do You Trust You Are Meant for More

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You are on the right path.  You simply lost faith and trust in yourself someone along the way. 

You were searching and started thinking everyone besides you had the answers so you stopped looking inside. This took you down the long road away from you. You disconnected from the true you because you didn’t feel safe or good enough. Surely, you thought, this other person has the answers.

My love, you have the answers. You know what to do. You merely lost you way. Your path is still there. It is right in front of you, hidden in plain sight. It’s waiting for you to come back to you – to the place where you can see clearly again. 

To see, with new eyes, what it is you truly desire from this one precious life of yours. To connect deeply with a sense of purpose and passion – this core knowing inside of you about what you are here to do, the genius you are here to unleash. To honor your desire for freedom, adventure, and the money to support you in your work and in your play. To fully release everything that has blocked you from receiving and experiencing all of this fully and unapologetically. 

There is no shame in wanting to live a life of great abundance – your desires chose you and are being activated in you so that you will become the person you are truly meant to be. 

The person who is rich financially, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. The person who lives with deep integrity, radical trust, impeccable truth, unwavering self-belief, high standards, clear, firm boundaries, fierce focus and determination, and takes bold, courageous, and even terrifying actions to live in alignment with the work and life written on their soul. 

This is no watered-down life. This is all-in, no matter how you feel, how long it takes, or what your circumstances look like, This happens now. It is non-negotiable. It is your life, after all. 

My job is to guide you back to you, not to tell you to do it my way or convince you I have the secret formula. My job is to guide you to uncover your own secret formula, to unlock your inner goldmine that holds all the answers. 

I won’t tell you how but I will show you the way to get  exactly where you want to go. You have to go without seeing, you have to release the need for it to make sense, and you have to rely on trust like never before. You will be stepping into the unknown which is where all magic happens.

Step up to the true you and prepare to be astounded by what you create.

I’m ready when you are.

Will you answer the call?

All you have to do is say YES.

To your greatness unveiled,

Kori

Decree Advanced Appreciation and Celebration to Activate Your Future Self

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Yesterday I was scheduled to present a training to an association of businesswomen. The event was not organized very well and as such, the number of RSVPs were low. The organizer decided to cancel the event. I spend a few hours the day before preparing and practicing my speech. I also committed to myself that I would treat myself to a manicure and pedicure afterward to celebrate.

Well, when the event canceled, I considered canceling my celebration too.

Then I thought, wait a minute, I am putting my sense of success on something outside of me when I know, from all the work I’ve done, that can only come from inside of me. I also thought about that little girl inside of me who was excited for the mani/pedi and if I canceled, she would lose faith in me.

My promises would become false promises – promises contingent on outside events or circumstances. I would be losing trust in myself and lacking integrity if I canceled.

So I went anyway to celebrate a future success, to demonstrate I had faith in myself and what I am creating, and that I can count on me to fulfill my commitments to me, no matter what.

So I called to see if I could get in before a meeting ai had scheduled that evening. They had an opening so I headed over shortly after.

And, you know what? 

It was better than I imagined! I sat with my feet in a hot bath while one man gave me a manicure and another gave me a pedicure. It felt like the royal treatment. I not only got to feel appreciation for treating myself well, the salon also charged me 30% less than the price they quoted me on the phone. And I arrived at my meeting right on time,

When we demonstrate to ourselves that we value ourselves, no matter what may be happening in our world, the universe rises to meet us in ways that surprise and delight us. 

How often do you wait until you feel you “deserve” a celebration before you express appreciation for what you desire?

We are trained to delay feeling gratitude and celebrating our success until it happens.

But what if you experiencing NOW, before it happens, actually accelerated its appearance in your experience? 

When we practice advanced gratitude and celebration BEFORE what we desire has manifested, we are expressing not only our trust in ourselves but also our trust in the universe/source/God to support us in those exacta desires. 

We tap into the unlimited possibilities in the quantum field and step into our future self. This is the self who is already living the life you dream of whose natural state is appreciation and joy.

And you can tap into that state right now and activate that future self right now. When you do, you set in motion a series of events that are only possible in that unknown space you are creating with your imagination, emotion, and gratitude.

What do you desire most today?

What will you do to celebrate it and express appreciation for it as if you had already created it?

I can’t wait to hear!

To more magic moments,

Kor

iP.S. If you are ready to not only create your future self but also your future ideal life right now and are committed to doing the work to change your state of being in every area of your life to reflect the true, powerful, unstoppable you, book your call with me and let’s make magic happen today.

The hidden addiction behind the addiction

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You’ve given up drinking, only engaging in an adult beverage once in a great while so you’re not the booze hound. You don’t smoke tobacco or marijuana or crack. You don’t snort cocaine. You don’t binge eat or compulsively exercise. You don’t overshop or overspend. You’re not into porn or gambling or promiscuity.

Yet you’re still an addict. 

What’s worse is you don’t have this external stimulus you can point to that demonstrates your addiction, which makes it worse. You’re mostly healthy, have a good family, healthy relationships, a business you love. 

So what the heck is it?

You’re addicted to suffering, being the victim, self-loathing.  This addiction of yours is much more socially acceptable than shooting heroin into your veins but it is just as self-destructive. 

Yes, your life is pretty good but there’s always a gap between where you are and where you’d truly like to be. Your addiction prevents you from ever closing that gap. It actually reinforces and widens the gap. You subconsciously crave feeling bad to make you feel good. 

So you create struggle and scarcity in your business, initiate battles with your body, and instigate arguments with your partner. You wouldn’t want to allow yourself to not feel bad because that is who you are.

This addiction to struggle has become your identity. You relive past traumas and create those feelings again and again which creates thoughts that reinforce the behavior of being the victim. It’s gotten so bad at points that you played the ultimate victim card – that you are so screwed up and will never figure it out and there’s no hope for you so you might as well just take yourself out.  

That gives you a huge hit – it feels so terrible that your addict rolls around loving this fix. The problem is, like any addiction, it’s never enough. There’s no way to satisfy this deep hole in your soul and you will just keep going down further and further. 

People will think you’re crazy. What the heck is wrong with you? You are healthy, you have a good family, work, a home. Why would you want to take yourself out?

They don’t see the inner workings that have created this emotional addiction – that it has become you. LIke giving up any drug, it isn’t easy. Something goes well and you go into withdrawal and anxiety. It’s not ok to feel ok. It’s not safe. So you tap back into your old wiring, beliefs, and thoughts which influences your actions so that you create more struggle in some area of your life. Ah, I feel like crap, that’s better. 

Yes, it sounds ridiculous but all addicts have this self-loathing victim mentality at their core. Their drug of choice is their attempt to escape yet it just creates more suffering which just reinforces their worthlessness and helplessness. This perpetuates the cycle of despair. 

There is a way out, of course, because there are no victims. 

The shift happens when you realize the only one oppressing you is you. All those thoughts and memories about past traumas –  you continue to choose them, reinforce and recreate them, and live them, therefore reaffirming your brokenness.

The only people that want to keep you down are you, you, and you. 

Once you own you have created this addiction – physically, mentally,  and psychologically – you can do the work to recover and overcome it. 

And, yes, it requires work. 

Freeing yourself from the chains of self-oppression is not only the best thing you’ll ever do, it is also the most powerful and life-changing because you start to see it is not only possible and safe to have it all, it is also your responsibility.

As a mantra from traditional 12-step recovery programs states, It works if you work it and you’re worth it. 

Are you willing to work it and own the truth that you’re worth it?

7 Keys to Unlocking Your Greatness

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I’ve been studying mindset, how the mind and brain work, consciousness, and productivity for years. I’ve used different tools and methods to work through different areas where I’ve felt stuck.

What I have found at the core of all of these different strategies is you have to trust, believe, and commit to the work fully. You can’t half-ass it and if you don’t trust and believe in the work, you are wasting your time doing the work. You will not see the results or changes you desire if you are simply going through the motions of whatever tool you choose to use to work through your blocks.

The thing with working through our blocks is often we create new blocks. We go down the rabbit hole and get lost. The trick is you have to do the work while staying connected to your spirit, heart, and body because your head will take you down the garden path and leave you in a labyrinth with no exit.

This is what happens a lot with mindset work. We stay in the mind and disconnect from the rest of us and the world. When that happens, we don’t make any progress. Mindset work can easily devolve into a tool that perpetuates stuckness because there’s always more to do. The key is you have to do the work and APPLY it to your life by taking bold and often massively terrifying actions. You have to start being the person that you truly are in real life, not just in your head and imagination. 

I created a simple process that pulls from some of the best mindset techniques I’ve used to move you through being stuck to transformation to creating results quickly. You can use it as many times as necessary throughout the day to keep your mind and actions aligned with your greatest purpose, mission, and vision and the true you.

Here it is:

7 Keys to Unlocking Your Greatness

  1. When you notice low energy emotions (discouragement, disappointment, unmotivated, uninspired, irritated, angry, frustrated, etc.), ask yourself, what instigated this? What was the trigger? 
    1. For example – you checked your social media and notice your IG followers are decreasing or the number of likes and engagement is low; your email list is not growing; you got into a disagreement with your partner, friend, colleague, family member; you looked at your bank or credit card statements, you didn’t get what you wanted in some way, etc.)
  2. What are you making this event or situation mean about you?
    1. For example – I’m a loser. No one likes me or my content. My content is crap. I’m a jerk. I’m not good enough to __________. I’m so screwed up, I’ll never be successful. I can’t be trusted to make good decisions with money. 
  3. What is the payoff or benefit of continuing this story?
    1. For example – It is familiar. Suffering and struggle might keep you connected to family patterns and a sense of belonging with that family story. You get to prove you’re not worthy. You get to feel like crap and wallow in despair so you don’t have to take any uncomfortable or scary actions. You get to play the victim and not take full responsibility for your life. 
  4. What happens when you drop this story?
    1. Often you discover that it wasn’t actually a big deal. This might trigger resistance as the ego or your little child inside will say – of course, it was a big deal – don’t you see how much I’ve suffered? This is attachment to being the victim. Who is that part of you? Go back to #3 if you experience this resistance.
  5. What happens when you fully release this story and that old identity?
    1. What is possible in that place of a new story and new identity? Who is that part of you? What are her/his life and business like? What does he/she create? What is the real truth about who you truly are?
  6. Visualize this new story and identity.
    1. Get into the true, felt emotion of what it will feel like when this IS your reality. 
    2. Express gratitude for it already being all that you desire.
    3. Celebrate this new story and identity as if it had already happened.
  7. Take one or more powerful, aligned actions AS this new identity.
    1. Stay awake and alert for hits of intuition and act immediately on them no matter how scary, uncomfortable, or inconvenient.
    2. Do the thing that terrifies you and that propels you into the future you desire.

Do this every time fear, anxiety, worry, negativity, doubt, criticism, or resistance creeps in. You must scrutinize those thoughts, turn them around, and take action from a new state of being. 

What happens when you do is you increase your productivity, confidence, decisiveness, and clarity which moves you forward quickly because you are getting derailed less often and staying down for less time and not just getting back up, but catapulting yourself into your power, truth, and genius.

The more you do this, the more you see, believe, trust, and KNOW what you are truly capable of. And, then? You create all that you desire and beyond. That’s the truth of how powerful you are. 

If you are tired of the old stories and frustrated with your business’ progress and deeply desire growth, impact, freedom, and fun so that your business supports you and the lifestyle you desire, let’s talk. 

To your greatness,

Kori

The True Cost of Being Stuck

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You have sought different solutions, programs, coaches, and trainings but you’re still stuck. You know you are a powerful coach yet your gifts are not being shared with the world in the way that you desire. You crave working with high-vibe clients, creating impact and influence, and seeing your clients soar into the stratosphere through your work together. Yet, it’s not happening.

You have invested consistently in your business and yourself to break through to the next level. You have the credit card debt to show for it but not the success.

The real cost of being stuck is not about all the time, money, and energy you’ve invested in your business, it’s the impact of not progressing on your sense of self that is wreaking havoc on you. You are losing your faith and belief in yourself. Doubt becomes second nature. Discouragement comes next. Before you know it, depression creeps in, followed closely by self-loathing. Why can’t I seem to figure this out? There must be something fundamentally wrong with me. I’m tired of the struggle. Maybe I should just give up and get a job.

This is the final nail in the coffin. You’re not sure you have what it takes and abandoning your dream becomes a viable option. The issue is you know it will kill your spirit. You know you are meant to do this work, that your entrepreneurial make-up will not settle into working for someone else. It will only increase the self-loathing and depression.

So the cost is not only will you continue not earning in your business, you’ll give it up. When you do that, the cost to your mental and physical health is beyond any financial figure. It is costing you your life – the life you are meant to live – thriving, excelling, contributing greatly, creating a legacy. That is the hardest pill to swallow – to know your gifts and talents won’t be used to their greatest capacity and a little piece of your soul dies with it.

What is the price of your soul? Of living the life you are meant to live? That is the true cost of staying stuck. 

How do I know? I’ve been there. I had invested again and again without seeing the results I desired. I went into self-doubt, despair, self-loathing, even entertained suicidal thoughts. 

It wasn’t about the money I had invested and the money I wasn’t making, it was about the gifts I wasn’t using and sharing, the life I wasn’t living. That was the true cost of being stuck for far too long. And now I look back and see it didn’t have to be that way and it certainly didn’t have to last that long. 

What changed? I stopped placing the power to change my life and business in some program, some coach, some tool I didn’t have and I decided I had everything I needed to be successful and to serve my clients powerfully. 

I made a decision to no longer let my gifts be unexpressed. I refused to abandon myself and my dream even for a second. I took a stand for myself, my business, and the work I am here to do. 

I decided to fear less and love more. I saw myself as the expert I had been seeking all along who had the perfect solution to grow my business well and profitably. I was vigilant with my thoughts and actions. I took full responsibility for my own well-being – mental, physical, spiritual, and financial. And I refused to entertain any thoughts of failure or misfortune or doubt. I proclaimed daily – This is my life and I will live it as I choose, no matter what. 

It requires great sacrifice, great commitment, and an even greater faith. 

And, of course, it is worth it. Your life is worth it. Your dream is worth it. You are worth it. 

Staying stuck is costing you your life. It’s time to reclaim your power, your truth, and your life.