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How to Break Free From Inconsistent Sales WITHOUT Working on Your Money Blocks or Your Money Mindset 👑

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(so you can start making sales TODAY…) 🌟

I was working with one of my clients who had been experiencing up and down sales. She was starting to think something must be wrong with her.

It’s totally normal to go there. I used to be the queen of “there must be something wrong with me.” 

I find it so curious that for many of us the default is to attack and criticize ourselves instead of being curious to see what’s going on. We are the cause of the effects we are creating after all. 😉

The next normal thing is to think, well, if there’s something wrong with me, then I need to work on my mindset, obviously. 🙂

The thing is, you can’t THINK yourself into a new way of being. This will just make it worse as you uncover more and more “evidence” of why you are stuck. 🤨

You have to LIVE yourself into it. 💃🏽

How do you do that?

Through your environment.

I can go and see what’s going on in your environment because your environment is mirroring your standards and self esteem. 🧐

We uncover what you are tolerating – chaotic mornings with the kids, a disorganized schedule that doesn’t allow you time to focus on your business and clients, those extra 20+ pounds you put on, your eating, sleeping, and exercise patterns that are inconsistent and leave you feeling irritable, taking on more of the household chores to avoid the discomfort of having a conversation with your partner about establishing new agreements between the two of you and the general lack of intimacy you feel in your relationship, etc. 

We then go in and change your environment so it reflects your true value and high standards. 💎

When we do that, it changes how you feel about money without ever going back to your parent’s relationship with money or tapping your way through your “money blocks” or working on your “money mindset.” 💥

This opens up the space for sales to be easy and you see it makes PERFECT sense for your clients to invest in working with you at your rate – and you see that is just one real and natural conversation away. 🎈

Create a New Kind of Revolution

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I come from a family of revolutionaries. But not revolutionaries in the way you might imagine. Revolutionaries in the sense that they stood up for what they believed – they valued every human being – regardless of religion, political party, nationality, ethnicity, race, class, age, sexual orientation, or profession – they saw every human life as sacred – and were willing to risk theirs to save others. 

My mother’s father was a part of the Dutch resistance movement during WWII. He risked his life, the life of his wife and two young children to hide a Jewish family in his home. A family he did not know – strangers – and a family who held beliefs that opposed his own as he was a Christian. 

Yet, human life was more important than religious beliefs. He risked his life for strangers with different beliefs.

Today, I see people shooting and beating people who hold opposing political beliefs. It appears that human life does not matter unless you support their political views. It is not a crime to support a political party – this is not Mao’s China, Franco’s Spain, Stalin’s Soviet Union, Pinochet’s Chile, or Hitler’s Germany – though it is beginning to look like it as videos emerge of people going up to diners and “ordering” them to put their fist in the air. 

That is not freedom of expression. You do not get to force your beliefs on others, nor kill or beat them for holding opposing beliefs. That is called fascism. Many of the violent protesters claim to be anti-fascist, which I find ironic as one of the tenets of fascism is the forcible suppression of opposition. And antifa has claimed and demonstrated its willingness to fight and kill anyone who opposes them. Funny how they call themselves anti-fascist, yet engage in the very actions they purport to be against. 

Many people are afraid to voice their views.

I have had several friends, black and white, who have told me they are afraid to say they don’t support blm. I have seen businesses, educational institutions, and government agencies bowing down to blm for fear of being called racist for not supporting a socialist, anti-family, pro-violence, Marxist organization. People fear getting fired from their jobs, students fear losing their scholarships, businesses fear losing patrons – this is reminiscent of living under a totalitarian regime.

Not supporting blm is not racist. Shaming people and calling people racist for not supporting an organization that has done more damage than good for the community it says matters is. 

I support the black community and know, with absolute conviction, it is made up of strong, resilient, resourceful, and intelligent individuals who don’t need government hand-outs, lowered standards, or pity.

I do not support an organization that purports that black lives matter while advocating for actions that destroy black communities in the form of the destruction of families and leaders who support socialism and marxist ideals.

I do not support a candidate who claims that the violence should continue instead of condemning violence and seeking solutions. The endorsement of violence supports continued killings of innocent people, destruction of property, destruction of many businesses’ and in turn, many business owners’ livelihoods, business owners who were already facing economic challenges due to covid, creating cities of violence instead of communities where its citizens can feel safe. 

I used to be a Democrat until I saw how many of the party’s policies and how many of the party’s leaders viewed their constituents promoted victim mentality. I’ve written before about being a bleeding heart activist until I woke up and the damage the liberal ideologies I had been indoctrinated under created. Viewing people as helpless, perpetuating dependence on the government for success, and seeing people as less competent and therefore in need of lowered standards and government handouts does not support the best in people. It is counter to everything I believe and know to be true about human beings. 

Pitying people does not inspire people to change nor does fostering codependency, lowering your expectations of them, or pinning their success on sources outside of themselves. 

Believing in each person, promoting personal responsibility, high standards, and strong morals, and offering support to individuals as they continue to rise does.

Freedom of expression gives people the opportunity to share their beliefs, to engage in civilized dialogue with those who have opposing beliefs, and agree to disagree. It is not about proving one right and the other wrong. It is about being curious and seeking to understand why they believe what they believe without an agenda. 

We are all human beings navigating these tumultuous times the best we can.

We will make mistakes. We are not perfect. If we can extend grace instead of judgment to each other, maybe we can remember, we are all human beings. We are not that different, no matter what our political or religious beliefs or professions.

Most people want to live a life free from the threat of violence, a life with the opportunity to create a better future for their children and grandchildren, to engage in meaningful work, to trust their neighbors, to support their community, to be a part of creating a more just, equal, peaceful, and prosperous world. 

This is what my grandparents stood for. This is what I stand for. 

We cannot let fear and intimidation win, ever.

To continue in my grandfather’s footsteps – 

I will not be silent. 

I will not be silenced.

I will not fear.

I will uphold the values and beliefs I hold close.

The value of personal responsibility and the belief in every human being to overcome seemingly insurmountable obstacles.

It is time for us to come together as a nation built on personal responsibility, integrity, and the power to change one’s circumstances. 

I support creating a national community that respects and values life, promotes unity, harmony, peace, and prosperity for all.

A black colleague of mine, who is also an educator, and, whose political views differ from mine,  and I are starting a podcast to open up the dialogue on race and discussions around the idea that it isn’t about race to begin with. If you have felt you have no one to talk to about what’s going on, join us. We will share a dialogue each week on different topics from different perspectives and share the sources of our information so you can continue, or begin, your own research on the topics we discuss. 

The podcast is called, I Need To Talk To Someone – Conversations on Race (it’s not about race) and Everything in Between.

Here is some information I have found helpful in my educational journey: 

A Nation of Victims by Charles Sykes

The Codependency Conspiracy

Family Formation and Poverty: A History of Academic Inquiry and Its Major Findings

1776 Unites | Uplifting Everyday Americans

Uncle Tom | An Oral History of the American Black Conservative

The Cult of Victimhood

Facts over Slogans – Solutions over Anarchy

A Closer Look at ‘White Fragility’ Theory

The Empirical Problems with Systemic Racism –   

Shelby Steele: The Black Lives Matter Movement Is Deeply Unserious

Thomas Sowell

Glenn Loury

Walter E. Williams

The Larry Elder Show – The Sage from South Central

The Myth of the Stolen Country

Identity politics and the Marxist lie of white privilege

 Reflections on race, riots, and police

“How To Be An Antiracist” is Anti-Intellectual

Racial Charges Distract From Real Problems of Black Americans

Overcoming Money Objections with Love ❤️

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What to do with “I don’t have any money. I’m going to wait until I make money and then I’ll invest”

Many people are facing economic challenges right now. #obvio Many were struggling before but with the pandemic, that economic pressure has intensified.

Saying they don’t have money feels safe. They can point to the pandemic and it makes them feel justified. They think they are being responsible. Of course I need to make money first, they think.

What they are really saying is they don’t trust themselves. They have invested many times before and didn’t see a return on those investments so they have created a belief in their inability to get an ROI. 

They think, well, isn’t that the definition of insanity – keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result.

They are right… and wrong.

I used to think this way. After many investments without seeing results, I told myself, I am not going to keep doing what isn’t working. This is smart. However, what I saw that wasn’t working was me investing.

I was right on part of it and completely wrong on the other part.

I was right that I needed to do something different. #Duh. I was wrong in thinking it was about not investing.

It wasn’t the investing. 

It was me. 😳

It was 1 – who I was being as I was investing *most importantly*  and 2 – what I believed about the program/mentor.

When I held the belief that something must be wrong with me, I invested in mentors and programs that reinforced that belief. They had magnetic marketing, promised the moon, but their coaching lacked substance. I didn’t get results which just reinforced my belief that there was something wrong with me – because — man, if I can’t get it with this high level coach and everyone else is, I must be really screwed up.  #nothelpful 😦

Of course, this led to me feeling nervous about investing again. 

What I had to shift was my perception of me. I had to decide me and my dream were worth investing in again and again until it worked. I had to decide that I didn’t need the coach’s guarantee, I needed mine. #truth

What it comes down to is your own trust and belief in yourself and what you desire to create in the world.

It also requires releasing any and all shame around past investments that didn’t work and to see they were all guiding you to the investment that will work. 

Waiting until you have the money to invest is giving money the power over you to change when you are the only one who can do that. 

Yes, it’s scary. It’s uncomfortable as hell. It is challenging all your old belief systems, and many of the beliefs systems held by society. 

That is how transformation occurs – higher level awareness combined with new actions.

If you keep investing with a low level mindset, thinking you are broken and this program or coach has the secret formula, then you will continue the same pattern of investing without getting results.

If you continue believing you can’t invest until you have the money, you will continue staying stuck because if you could do it on your own, you would have done it by now. 

When you decide to invest knowing your worth and power and deciding you will be successful, there is no way you will not get results. 

That’s what happened for me. I stopped giving my past investments power over my future success. I chose to invest in a different kind of mentor as a different kind of person – as a woman who demands success and gets it – and everything changed. 

From doing all the things are hearing crickets to 3 DMs and 3 Yeses in 36 hours.

The same is possible for you. ❤️

If you want clients to invest in you, you need to invest in you first. This will squash your own misguided beliefs about the value of working with you which will make the “I got no money” objections go away because they will find a way to get the money – just like you did – because they see they are worth investing in and you are the right mentor to guide them to massive transformation. The ROI will be a no-brainer because of course they will get results – just like you did. 

As it is given, so shall it be received. 💎

If you are ready to say goodbye to working you butt off to get leads without much to show for all your effort and want to learn my amazing empowered sales with soul DM strategy to book sales calls with clients excited to work with you, I invite you to a breakthrough to sales with soul session where I will show you what you can do to start booking sales calls today. 

Only if you want that, though. 😊

Check out this video on overcoming money objections.

It’s not about the money.

TO ALL THE COACHES AND MENTORS I’VE HIRED BEFORE

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To the coaches who taught me to create lead magnets, email campaigns, and funnels, I created countless dozens.

To the coach who was all about NLP and Instagram, you helped me see who I am not.

To the coach who was about releasing negative energy using her book of muscle testing tricks, that negative energy continued to stick around. 

To the coach who told me it was all about alchemizing my shadow and activating the dark, it didn’t work for me.

To the coach who told me I had to divorce my family and remove them from my life forever, I’m glad I didn’t listen to you. 

To the coach who told me to network, create a low-priced membership, and keep my fees low, you didn’t really see me.

To the coach who told me to tap and do 3-day challenges and then told me she was glad when our mentorship was over because she didn’t look forward to our calls, you showed me the kind of coach I will never be.

To the coach who said it was about clearing money blocks and using her crystal method of manifestation, this only reinforces money blocks.

To the coach who was all about law of attraction, I discovered it requires more than being high-vibe.

To the mentor who helped me clarify my message, this reinforced the belief that it takes a long time to sell and there are a lot of hoops to jump through. 

To the mentor who was all about acceptance, forgiveness, and permission, you helped me see myself differently.

To the mentor who was all about play and creativity, you helped me see the importance of cultivating joy.

To the mentor who showed me my gift in relationships, you helped me shift my perception of me.

To the mentor who helped me see transformation doesn’t have to take a long time, you helped set me free from old, deeply rooted beliefs about change and I was able to shift my business in ways I never had before so that sales were fun, easy, and empowering.

You all led me on a path to clarifying who was the right mentor for me and to seeing the type of mentor I desire to be.

You must be what you desire to attract because you attract what you are.

I can see who I was with each of you from playing the victim to hiding to breaking free from victim mentality and owning my power, worth, and truth to claim and realize all I desire. 

I am grateful I continued to evolve in who I was and who I desired to work with. 

I want to thank all of you for all the lessons that led me to where I am now and to being the woman, coach, and business owner I am meant to be and will continue to evolve into.

Love,

Kori

Surmount Obstacles on the Path to Your Calling

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It is hard to admit you need support, especially after you have received a lot of support and it didn’t help you progress in the way that you had hoped.

There is a part of you that clings to the belief that you can figure it out on your own and you desperately want to figure it out on your own because that means you don’t have to invest anymore. 

You are smart and  intelligent and it’s not all that complicated.

This is true.

AND, if you could figure it out on your own, you would have figured it out by now. 

You are perfectly capable of figuring it out and competent in making it happen. 

What happens is we are blind to our own blocks and our own greatness.

You may know your limiting beliefs and have done work around releasing them. Many times what happens is, instead of being released, they become even more entrenched. You focus on what’s not working, explore the root of it, and by doing so, give it more attention, which means more power. 

The other thing is, you often don’t see what is working because you have trained yourself to see what’s wrong. This reinforces the belief that you are wrong – that there is something wrong with you. 

How do you build something grand from a belief in your brokenness? How do you see your greatness from that limited perspective?

This is why we grow more in relationship. Our mentors bring new eyes and perspective that allow us to see ourselves differently. 

The longer you go without support and the longer you go without seeing significant changes in your business, the more you stay stuck and end up strengthening your belief in your incompetence.

All of this is unnecessary.

What is required is doing the uncomfortable. Committing to getting the right support for you by working with the right mentor for you. 

What it comes down to is – what is your dream worth?

Are you willing to pursue it no matter what? No matter how uncomfortable, inconvenient, and scary it may feel? 

Are you willing to see that all the support you received before was guiding you to the right mentor – showing you what didn’t work to guide you to what will?

When you give into discouragement, you convince yourself it’s foolish to invest again as you point to your track record.

Think of Edison – what if he had given up after 50 experiments? Or if JK Rawling had given up after 10 rejections? 

If this is the thing you KNOW you are meant to do, then it doesn’t matter how many rejections you’ve received or failed attempts you’ve made, you will make it happen. 

You will see everything as guiding you to where you are meant to be vs seeing it as preventing you from succeeding. 

Your gifts will impact the world in ways you can’t even imagine. The fact that you went through trials and tribulations to bring them into realization will make them all the more valuable to both you and the world. 

It’s time to unleash them. 

What are you about?

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It is easy to forget when you get caught up in keeping up – running your business, advancing your career, maintaining the home, supporting your family, engaging with friends, staying healthy. 

Life becomes a series of tasks. Joy fades. You go through the motions.

It’s like you’re waiting to live your life until that magic moment when you reach a certain level of success, the kids are out of the home, you have more time, you feel more confident, you have more experience… (the list goes on). This keeps you in a state of not being fully present for the life you are living.

You miss out on your life by living according to someone else’s standards or vision. 

When you are constantly looking ahead, you are never really here. This moment is the only moment you truly have control over. This moment determines what you contribute toward where you want to be.

The paradox is you have to be HERE in order to get THERE.

You can feel called to something more (we are naturally inclined toward growth) AND be fully IN your life.  It is when you are not in the moment that you lose sight of what you desire. Living in the future disconnects you from the power you have in this moment to create that future. 

That future already exists within you.

You desire it because you believe it will give you an experience – of happiness, fulfillment, prosperity, freedom, excitement, love, acceptance, belonging, validation, etc. The truth is you can create any and all of those experiences right now. The more you live in those experiences now, the more you create opportunities that match those experiences. 

In my creative guidance practice, I guide my clients through my transformative EVOKE process to lead them to their inner guidance, to uncover their genius, to deepen their connection with their purpose, and to live their calling with passion and prosperity. 

When you are connected to who you really are, what you are about, and what you are here to change, the world changes.

When more people are living their mission with inner security and true wealth, comparison fades away, along with shame and inner criticism.

What happens then is you live with more freedom, joy, and meaning and your impact comes from that energy of living the truth of who you are. This energy transforms your life, your relationships, and your work because you are operating from an elevated state of being.

This makes all that you are doing come into alignment so that it feels like your work is being done through you. No more forcing, hustle, or struggle. You are being guided and you take action on that guidance which opens up doors you didn’t know existed. 

This is how you are meant to function – as a vehicle for your mission. Your work then becomes your ministry. It is what you are here to do and only you can do it and the way you do it is an expression of your soul as love. 

You can chase achievements but they will leave you feeling empty when it is done to prove your worth vs express your genius.

You are meant to do work that changes you from the inside out and that, in turn, changes the world. 

I can guide you there.

If you know you want to live and work differently but aren’t sure what that looks like and are nervous about what it will require from of you, book your call with me where I will tap into my 20 years of training in psychology, communication, and spirituality to show you exactly what’s stopping you from ditching the hustle and working with more ease and joy and what you can do to shift that right away.

To your calling,

Kori