How being led to discover YOUR way vs being directed to use someone else’s way is THE way to attracting and enrolling soul mate clients into your practice
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Many coaches are selling their system or blueprint for success and often teach you their marketing templates for attracting clients into your programs.
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I get how appealing this is. You get to show up, do what they suggest, and voila, problem solved. 🤨 #yearight
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The issue is it isn’t sustainable.
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AND, for many coaches, the system or blueprint their coach is teaching them doesn’t give them the same results their coach got.
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This is super frustrating. 😳 And, this often leads to thinking there’s something wrong with you, which is NOT helpful and NOT true.
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I also get how appealing this is for the coaches selling a blueprint – they can say do exactly what I tell you and if you don’t get results, it’s because you didn’t do as I said.
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It’s very much like an authoritarian parental relationship, which is not very empowering.
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It puts you in the place of being directed vs being led on a process of discovery to your own unique system for a thriving business and client attraction.
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I worked with many coaches who operated this way and it didn’t work for me. 😕
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I know that for sustainable change, we have to be involved in the creation of that change – it has to come from us – not us putting on someone else’s suit, yet I fell into the allure of simply following someone else’s steps, which requires less of you. You can operate from the head and bypass the heart.
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When you do that, your success is short-lived.
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I had a coach criticize my writing and tell me I had to write in a very specific way. I had written a post about a past relationship and started the post without a title. That was against the rules!
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That post led to a $5000 60-day sale while many of the posts I wrote using my coach’s formula did not. 😳
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The funny thing is, despite evidence that my writing was working, I followed her guidance anyway, which just made me distrust myself and my writing, which led to sales being a struggle, which caused me to distrust her. Ugh.
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That experience reinforced to me that TRUST is essential for true transformation. You have to trust yourself enough to stand up for yourself. To know when old patterns of conditioning resurface and you slip into old behaviors of being the people pleaser, not wanting to upset anyone, or simply avoiding conflict, that they are coming up SO that you can choose differently.
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That means you voice your concerns. It also means you get out of that coaching relationship if it’s no longer working for you.
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Because if it’s not working, it’s not working. Best to let it go, move on, and use your new awareness of what you desire in a mentor and in a coaching relationship to get the right support for you.
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In my 60-day mentorship, I guide my clients to SEE themselves, their work, process, program, soul mate client, and transformational offer through Quantum Eyes so that when they write their posts and share their videos, they write and speak from heart and spirit directly to the heart, mind, and spirit of their soul mate client so she is magnetized to them. No blueprints or scripts or templates are required. 😊