Why you need to be more selfish

What? You can’t be serious.

We are taught at a young age to not be selfish. I’m not talking about selfish in the sense of hoarding, being stingy and not sharing, being greedy, or being completely self-absorbed.

I’m talking about it in the sense of doing MORE of what YOU want to do.

When you do what you desire, you are actually serving others. When you honor yourself and your true soul desires, you are present wherever you are, whatever you are doing, and with whomever you are with. That is the greatest gift you can give yourself and others.

I used to think that there was a cap to how much I could take care of myself and have fun. I would beat myself up by reminding myself of the fun things I had done that week as if it wasn’t ok to want more. Sounds ridiculous, right?

I came to realize that everyone’s threshold for fun is different. Mine happens to be high. It could have something to do with having struggled with depression for many years, who knows. It doesn’t matter.

What matters is I honor my soul and spirit. If they call for more fun, I must obey. I must be selfish. Because when I am, I am a much better version of me.

Think about it. How do you feel when you have engaged in an activity that you love? What kind of person are you then? Are you the kind of person you want to spend time with? Heck yes. What about when you are driving yourself to the bone, working nonstop, putting off fun, and forgoing any semblance of self-care? Do you want to be around you then? No way.

So if honoring your soul and spirit and what they are craving is selfish, then you absolutely need to be more selfish. And to hold those commitments to yourself as if they were the most important appointments in your day – that, no matter what comes up or gets thrown your way, you do not postpone them or push them aside. They are as important as the air you breathe because they are what give you life. And that life is what serves others in the most profound ways.

My commitments to myself begin in the morning (movement, meditation, and writing)  and continue to expand each day and week as I pay attention to what my soul is nudging me toward.

I recently added these to my list:

Dance every day. Laugh every day. 20+ minutes outside every day. One social/fun event each week. One date night each week. Zero complaints. Act immediately on my intuition.

I am sure my list will change as I crave different experiences and as these commitments become just what I do and who I am.

What about you? What lights you up? How committed are you to doing those things? How often do you break your commitments to yourself? What can you do today to be more selfish?

I’d love to hear!

To being more selfish,


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