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Kori Gouge

Masterful Mindset Coach for Service-Focused Coaches and Wellness Practicioners

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Just Say No. (Making Space for What You Truly Desire)

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I haven’t been emailing my list  – it’s been two weeks! What?! I am on a path to follow the energy, the joy, and what lights me up. That meant not forcing anything – because, honestly, who wants to read a forced email anyway, right?

And, what that made space for was me sharing live videos every weekday for the past two weeks. It felt EASY. I wanted to share something so I jumped on a live video and shared it. Done.

Today, I was asked by the tutoring company I contract with to teach a class on Sunday. I knew the answer right away – no. I started to type my response and at first, I gave a reason. I stopped. I don’t need a reason. I could have nothing on my calendar, could be sitting around all day in my PJs eating bonbons and still say no.

This is new ground for me. In the past, I would have said yes unless I had something planned or I would’ve wanted a reason to say no. I wouldn’t have allowed myself to say no simply because I didn’t want to. That didn’t feel ok in the past. Crazy, right?

Being in supreme integrity with your highest self means you are not going to please everyone and you very well might upset them. Think – canceling plans because you realize what is most aligned with you is NOT going, or changing your business mid-stream because you realize the direction you’re heading is no longer in alignment with who you are becoming.

However, YOU, and only YOU, have to live your life and go to sleep with yourself each night. Wouldn’t you rather go to sleep knowing you honored the highest version of you in every area of your life? And, won’t that help other people see that version of you too? People recognize you have clear, firm boundaries, high standards, and always speak your truth. As such, they can trust you – you aren’t saying something just to get approval or validation or to convince them of your way – you are simply speaking your truth. It is incredibly freeing (for not only you but everyone in your life, too!).

So, I invite you to say no today without giving any reason or justification. Simply no, knowing when you say no to what is no longer aligned to you, you automatically make space for what is aligned with your true desires to come in. Get ready to receive!

I’d love to hear what you are saying no to today! Reply and let me know.

P.S. I created an amazing new tool – Optimize Your Day – Do Your Day Your Way. Included are some of my all-time favorite and most powerful visualizations, meditations, and other incredible resources. If you’d like a copy, click here!

Believing in you,

Kori

 

The Answer Is Truly You

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You have all the reasons in the world it wasn’t working, your life, that is.

It was your mindset.

It was generational agreements.

It was unhealthy belief systems.

It was energy misalignment.

It was negative self-talk.

It was toxic energetic attachments.

It was chakra imbalances.

It was daddy issues.

It was mother issues.

It was codependency.

It was a chemical imbalance.

It was the devastating losses you’d experienced.

It was lack of exposure.

It was a block in your receptivity channels.

It was the moon and the stars.

You name it, You had it.

And “it” surely would not allow you to succeed and fulfill your soul’s true desires.

So you hired energy coaches, strategy coaches, reiki masters; took courses on growing your audience, increasing your intuition, messaging, mindset, launching, email campaigns, clarity, money mastery, and on and on the list goes.

You were sure someone or something had the solution for how to heal you. You were sure one of these things was the answer you had been seeking because surely you didn’t have it.

Although you knew intellectually that self-knowledge was part of the answer, your rational mind distorted it into extreme self-analysis, keeping you stuck in a pattern of paralysis.

Why?

Because you can know yourself all you want but if you don’t trust yourself, no amount of knowledge will help. It will only serve to prove your brokenness beyond repair.

 

So what was it that did the trick? What broke the spell of doubt, distrust, and despair?

 

It was seeing, without condemnation or criticism, that the common denominator in both your success and lack of success was you. It was being able to take 100% responsibility for everything in your life without using it as a weapon to annihilate you. It was revoking victim mentality and shadow consciousness from your system. It was seeing through the distortions to get to the truth.

It was taking on radical self-acceptance and appreciation as a full-time job. It was choosing to see that trust grows and doubt destroys and you get to choose, in every moment, in which to place your energy.

It was understanding, at a visceral level, that connecting, truly, fully connecting to who you truly are, your essence, your higher self, was what would set you free.

And, little by little, day by day, you get stronger; your belief in yourself grows.

Doubt shrinks away and trust takes its place.

And, now you see, more clearly than ever, that only you can choose the path and only you can walk it.

You have to go through the muck and the despair and see there is no way around it so might as well go on and get it done.

You recognize now that it was a death, many deaths, that had to occur to allow your higher self to emerge. And while it felt awful going through it, you knew, at last, you had all the tools, knowledge, and experience necessary to do it and only you could do it.

You had to take the steps forward with full responsibility for all of your life.

As you shed all your false selves, the true you stepped in.

The true you, authentically powerful, which equipped you to speak your truth with everyone, everywhere, no matter what, set you free to fully be the one and only you and to experience the full pleasure of significant success in every area of your life.

 

Stop Apologizing. Start Rising.

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Stop apologizing. It isn’t necessary. Stop worrying about hurting other people’s feelings. You are not responsible for how other people receive what you say nor are you responsible for how other people experience you.

 

You are only responsible for you – for mastering your energy and for being in supreme integrity with your highest expression all the time, everywhere, and with everyone.

 

When you take 100% responsibility for you – your losses and gains, your successes and failures, for your state of being, worth, and value – the way you see the world shifts. You realize that no one and nothing has power over you and that is true for everyone, everywhere. It is not your job to save anyone or monitor yourself in order to not upset someone. That is not being the true you. That is your false self – the one who cares more about what others think of you than seeing the truth of who you are.

 

The truth is you are the only one who has the power to determine your internal state. Once you see that and do the work to master that, you become unshakeable. You hold yourself in high regard and speak your truth always, no matter what. No filtering. No censoring. No apologizing.

 

Your truth is meant to disrupt old patterns and shake things up so if people get stirred up by you, that is a good thing. You are calling them to wake up from their self-imposed numbness.

 

As this happens, you use that energy created from the disruption to continue to catalyze changes. Everything, everything, makes you stronger.

 

I recorded a video yesterday on this very topic. Check it out here.

 

I’d love to hear from you! What stood out for you and what changes are you committed to making?

A New Definition of Progress

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How knocking the passenger side mirror off my car showed me how much progress I’ve made

 

As I was backing into the garage, a little too close to the side, my passenger side mirror knocked clean off. WTF? I was pissed. This was the second time in two years this has happened. Are you kidding me? AH!

I went inside the house and started crying.

 

It wasn’t about the mirror.

 

It was the tiredness, the lack of “progress,”  the end of the year. It was being so close to something yet thinking you are far away. It was not being able to see clearly.

 

The pressure to be in a certain place professionally, to have achieved a certain level of success, to feel a sense of accomplishment weighs heavy. And, all of this needs to be financial, professional – it all needs to “prove” you am worthy of a year gone by. You must produce, accomplish, achieve, or you don’t have value.

 

You can’t see when you are only looking ahead to what’s next and focusing on where you aren’t yet. It’s a recipe for beating yourself up and keeping yourself stuck.

 

My default in the past would have been to go down the slippery slope and convince myself nothing was working, open a bottle of wine or pour myself a stiff drink, commiserate, maybe indulge in sweets or some other distraction.

I would have swum in negativity, felt progressively worse about myself and my life to the point where I would end up wondering what the hell the point of my life was and wishing for it all to end.  

Not a pretty picture.

 

This time, I sat and cried for a minute. I felt it, acknowledged it, and let it move through me without letting it take me down.

Then, I got up, washed off my tears, and put on water for tea.

I prepared myself some goat cheese with pecans and cranberries and a bit of chocolate.

Food, grounding food, helped. I then roasted vegetables and sauteed a chicken breast.

I made another cup of tea.

Movement, action, focusing on what you DO have control over helps – so much more than pining over the future or jumping in the pool of analysis.

This is so FAR from where I used to be, it is almost laughable. I am a completely different person.

 

You did what? Made tea and a healthy snack and meal? WTF is wrong with you? No spiraling into addictions, swirling in negativity, lashing out at the world?

How in the hell did you do that?

 

I looked BACK instead of forward and saw how much I have grown this year.

I was kind to myself, despite my tiredness and frustration.

I scoured the shadow energy out and reminded myself of the truth:

I am worthy just for being me.

I have nothing to prove.

I am right where I need to be.

No one and nothing, not any situation or circumstance, has power over me.  

Period.

 

All I needed to do was knock the mirror off my car to remind me to look back, not forward.

From that perspective, wow. Things are much different. I hardly recognize myself.

I’d say that’s progress, my friend. HUGE progress.

 

How do you define progress?

 

 

The Year is Not Over Yet

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What the heck happened to this year, you think to yourself. How the heck did it go by so fast? What do I have to show for it? I’m not ready for a new year yet. I still have so much I want to do!

 

You have worked so hard this year. You’ve invested in your own personal and professional growth through programs and coaches yet you’re still not where you want to be. Ugh. You’re tired of working so hard – on yourself and your career. You want to see results. You want time and space to breathe and to enjoy the harvest of all that you’ve planted. Why is it not growing faster, dang it, you say.

 

Breathe. It’s ok. You are right where you need to be, as far away as it might feel from where you want to be. This is about trust. This is not the time to abandon yourself, criticize yourself, or abuse yourself. This is a time for completion, for coming clean, and for preparing for all that you desire to come to you.

 

You can’t receive what you most desire if you are in a place of condemnation. You have to master your shadow so it no longer determines your direction. You must become the master of your energy in every situation and in all circumstances. That is when you realize you have all the time you need and that you determine your success. You.

 

When you hold the highest standards for yourself and prepare the most divine environment for your soul, you allow what you desire to come to you. You ask, knowing it is already yours, and you let it go, trusting it is on the way. TRUSTING is the key.

 

If you are still operating out of the old system (beliefs and ways of being), filling yourself with worry and anxiety, you will fall back into the groove that has kept you stuck in a state of discontent and frustration. And you will continue to get more of what you don’t want instead of the forward progress you are craving.

 

Another year will go by. Your progress will feel infinitesimally small. You’ll spiral into analysis and attack your sense of self  – what the heck is wrong with me? And, you’ll start the process over again. You can’t get there from here. That’s why you keep staying here.

 

You have to step out of the shadow. You have to take 100% responsibility for all your results and lack of results. You have to see with new eyes.

 

You must upgrade your system.  

 

Join me for a special bespoke transformational mentorship – Complete 2018. Ignite 2019 – two weeks in December of personalized support to complete 2018 to eradicate those old beliefs and clean out your system followed by two weeks of support in January to integrate your new way of being so that you are soaring into 2019 already operating at your next level.

 

This work is powerful. We dig deep to uncover what’s been holding you back from living in true alignment with your soul, free up that energy, and use it to power you forward. You become unstoppable, unshakeable, unoffendable.

 

I am so excited to offer this timely support that I am offering it at a very special rate – 55% off my normal rate! What!?

 

Yes, that’s how pumped I am about this.

 

Receive the highest level of support to set you up for leaving everything that no longer serves you behind and stepping into your true, phenomenal self for only $997.

 

You receive two weeks of support in December and two weeks of  support in January that includes four 60-minute deep dive sessions with me, IM or Whatsapp daily check-ins during your support weeks, email access with responses within 24 hours, and access to all the tools and resources I have created and used for my own transformation. You schedule the dates that work best for you and we take off from there.

 

This is the time of year where support is often lacking as we get carried away with the holidays and fall off track easily. You don’t want to start the year in a daze, feeling even deeper in the ditch from the holiday freneticism. This is when you most need to hold onto yourself, elevate your vision, and rise above all the things that are clawing to keep you stuck in your old way of being. Think of it as your gift to yourself – a gift that has tremendous rewards.

 

If this is speaking to you, I invite you to schedule a call with me.

 

There is no perfect time. There is only now – the present.

 

Love,

 

Kori

 

What do you do when you’ve asked but nothing happens?

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What do you do when you’ve asked but nothing happens?

 

Crickets. Nada. Zilch.

 

Do you let doubt seep in? Do you spiral into fear, worry, and anxiety?

 

Do you abandon yourself and your desires?

 

Or do you stay in alignment with your desires – acting, being, and believing as the person who already has what they desire, regardless of their current circumstances?

 

Most often, abandonment comes quickly. It’s the easy way out – ditch your desires and “be responsible” and “grow up.”

 

Beware, the shadow is lurking.

 

You must check for lies and illusions because shadow energy is running the show when this happens. You must excavate those lies, extricate them, and operate on them. You must burn out the shadow as if you were performing surgery, removing the toxic cells and burning all the roots left behind before sewing the incision back together. You must completely burn out the roots so they have nothing left to cling to; so they cannot dig deeper and grow again. They are insidious.

 

You must be diligent. You must be vigilant. When and if you notice them creeping back in, you must attack immediately. You must root them out, clean out the trench completely, and you must plant truth there so you don’t leave a void. Nature seeks to fill voids so do not leave it vulnerable to weeds and old growth. Fill it only with the best soil – with life-giving beliefs and thoughts and truth – so that only truth can grow there. And then hold yourself to that truth with exacting standards, radical trust, and supreme integrity in what you say, how you hold yourself, your posture, your facial expressions, your appearance, your thoughts, actions, words, and beliefs.

 

Now ask yourself – do you believe yourself?

 

If an old lover (the shadow) came around now, would they believe you when you said you were through or would they still think they had a chance because they noted in your voice and body language that you hadn’t fully committed to a new way without them? You weren’t totally standing up for yourself. You gave them a glimmer of hope because they could tell you still doubted yourself and your decision so they stuck around. They kept planting more seeds of doubt in you, convincing you of their ways and beliefs so that you fall again.

 

So, you must ask yourself again – do you believe you? Are you convinced that you are not going back to them and your old ways, no matter how familiar and comfortable it is? Are you really done this time? Have you ripped out every last claw so that there is zero emotional charge when they come around? So much so it’s like oil trying to stick to water and no matter what they say or do or how hard they try, it doesn’t stick. There is nothing there. Nothing. They finally see the futility of their efforts and leave. They see you are solid, you stand for your truth and there is no room for them anywhere at all in any crevice of your life.

 

At first, you notice the gap in the space they used to take up, like an old memory of who you used to be but now it holds no weight. No emotional charge. The old story and memory fade. The gap closes. You become stronger. Things that used to trigger you now bounce right off you as if you are made of  Teflon.

 

Now you know who you are and nothing can get in the way or prevent you from living the fullest expression of your divine soul living through you as you.

This is true freedom. Absolute liberation. You are not at the whim of society, circumstances, or other people’s opinions or perceptions of you. Your internal state comes from you and you uphold the highest standards for what that looks and feels like. As such, your energy rises and you become a perfect match for all you desire. You hold unwavering self-belief, impeccable truth, and radical trust.

 

No matter what comes or doesn’t come your way, you hold yourself in high regard and honor your soul. You are unshakeable, unstoppable, and unoffendable.

 

Welcome home.