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Kori Gouge

Masterful Mindset Coach for Service-Focused Coaches and Wellness Practicioners

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The Way Back to All You Desire Is In

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I used to not trust my body. I was a slave to my overactive rational mind that said I needed to exercise more, eat less, do more, be more.

As a child, you trust your body. You may be so caught up in playing that you don’t want to listen to it, but you still trust it. You’re hungry, you eat. You’re tired, you rest. You want to play, you play. This is no adversarial relationship with yourself, there is simply congruence. You say what you mean. You feel what you feel.

You learn to manipulate as you get older as you start to see that some behaviors give you rewards and approval and others give you punishments and criticism. You start to shape your life to feed that fix you get when you receive positive acknowledgment. You notice you get more approval when you look a certain way so you start to manipulate your body to conform to this new standard. As such, you turn off your body’s guidance system and bow down to your rational mind. Thus begins the complications. Your body is the true mind and it will guide you to your perfect state of being if you’ll allow it to but you’ve placed your faith in things outside of you – this process or prescription for what it takes to look a certain way. It is not only betraying your body, it also betrays your spirit. You are so consumed by all this manipulation that you have lost your joy. That spark that once shone so brightly inside you has faded to a mere dim flicker.

You want it back but you’ve lost your way. You abandoned yourself and placed your sense of worth outside of you. As such, no matter what you do or what your body looks like, you’ll never be satisfied.

The way back is in. You have to regain your trust in your body and in yourself. You have to become intimate with your body like you would a new lover, asking with genuine curiosity- What do you desire? What do you fear? What turns you on? What stirs you up? What soothes you? What excites you?

And then, you must listen deeply with no agenda and you must trust what you hear, no matter how crazy it may seem. Your body doesn’t lie. It knows. It will guide you to states of optimal health, ecstasy, creativity, and tranquility.

The more you cultivate this deep trust in your body, the more confident you feel as you realize you have the best guidance system on the planet. Everything you desire is right there, within you. Now you see, it always has been.

 

Powerful Presence and Masterful Mindset Academy

How Far Can You Go?

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I recently adopted a puppy from a shelter. She is three months old, still a little skittish and nervous outside but full of energy inside. I love going on walks so, of course, I want her to join me. She, however, is not willing to go that far yet. She can only go as far as she is willing and able, much like us, actually. She can’t see what’s ahead. She needs to stop, look around, assess the situation, and then decide whether to continue or not. I can encourage her and assure her it is safe because I have been on this walk before and I know what’s ahead. If she isn’t ready, though, no amount of encouragement will get her to move. She digs her heels in and refuses. If I push it and insist she move forward, it is no fun for either of us. She starts to associate more and more stress and anxiety with walks and i lose my patience more quickly each time.

So I have to let go of wanting her to be further along than she is ready to be.

This is true for us as well. We can only go as far as we are ready to. And, at the same time, maybe we can’t quite see the way ahead yet. Someone can encourage us. We can hire a coach who has been there and can see the way more clearly than we can, but if we are not in a place where we are ready and willing, it won’t happen. No matter how much we invested in the coach or program and no matter how much we truly want to move forward. Sometimes we have to pause, take a look around, assess our situation, and then decide which way to go. We have to honor where we are and how far we have already come instead of beating ourselves up for not being further along.

If we fight it, we are pushing a boulder uphill, which is not fun for anyone. This doesn’t motivate or encourage us, it actually does the exact opposite.

So, take the pressure off. Look back to see how much progress you have already made. Look around to appreciate where you are. Trust that you will get to where you want to go and that you are exactly where you need to be right now. Honor and appreciate the journey as much as the destination. Approach the journey as the destination. How can you have more fun with it, be more you, and know that you are making every day the absolute best day instead of waiting until you get there to relax and enjoy yourself? This is the power of mastering your mindset and trusting yourself completely. You stop comparing your path and speed to everyone else’s. You know the right path for you and the exact right actions to take, beliefs to hold, and thoughts to embody to get there at the exact right time.

And, that, my friend is a little piece of bliss.

 

Introducing the Powerful Presence and Masterful MIndset Academy!

 

Unleash the power within you, build unshakeable confidence, and maintain a rock-solid mindset and watch how quickly all those things you’ve been wanting to do get checked off your list –

 

>> A rockin’ body with poise and grace? Of course.

>> More satisfying relationship and better sex? Absolutely.

>> Better job with more pay? Yes.

>> Start that business? Indeed.

 

Curious? Email me and let’s talk! 

Just Say No. (Making Space for What You Truly Desire)

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I haven’t been emailing my list  – it’s been two weeks! What?! I am on a path to follow the energy, the joy, and what lights me up. That meant not forcing anything – because, honestly, who wants to read a forced email anyway, right?

And, what that made space for was me sharing live videos every weekday for the past two weeks. It felt EASY. I wanted to share something so I jumped on a live video and shared it. Done.

Today, I was asked by the tutoring company I contract with to teach a class on Sunday. I knew the answer right away – no. I started to type my response and at first, I gave a reason. I stopped. I don’t need a reason. I could have nothing on my calendar, could be sitting around all day in my PJs eating bonbons and still say no.

This is new ground for me. In the past, I would have said yes unless I had something planned or I would’ve wanted a reason to say no. I wouldn’t have allowed myself to say no simply because I didn’t want to. That didn’t feel ok in the past. Crazy, right?

Being in supreme integrity with your highest self means you are not going to please everyone and you very well might upset them. Think – canceling plans because you realize what is most aligned with you is NOT going, or changing your business mid-stream because you realize the direction you’re heading is no longer in alignment with who you are becoming.

However, YOU, and only YOU, have to live your life and go to sleep with yourself each night. Wouldn’t you rather go to sleep knowing you honored the highest version of you in every area of your life? And, won’t that help other people see that version of you too? People recognize you have clear, firm boundaries, high standards, and always speak your truth. As such, they can trust you – you aren’t saying something just to get approval or validation or to convince them of your way – you are simply speaking your truth. It is incredibly freeing (for not only you but everyone in your life, too!).

So, I invite you to say no today without giving any reason or justification. Simply no, knowing when you say no to what is no longer aligned to you, you automatically make space for what is aligned with your true desires to come in. Get ready to receive!

I’d love to hear what you are saying no to today! Reply and let me know.

P.S. I created an amazing new tool – Optimize Your Day – Do Your Day Your Way. Included are some of my all-time favorite and most powerful visualizations, meditations, and other incredible resources. If you’d like a copy, click here!

Believing in you,

Kori

 

The Answer Is Truly You

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You have all the reasons in the world it wasn’t working, your life, that is.

It was your mindset.

It was generational agreements.

It was unhealthy belief systems.

It was energy misalignment.

It was negative self-talk.

It was toxic energetic attachments.

It was chakra imbalances.

It was daddy issues.

It was mother issues.

It was codependency.

It was a chemical imbalance.

It was the devastating losses you’d experienced.

It was lack of exposure.

It was a block in your receptivity channels.

It was the moon and the stars.

You name it, You had it.

And “it” surely would not allow you to succeed and fulfill your soul’s true desires.

So you hired energy coaches, strategy coaches, reiki masters; took courses on growing your audience, increasing your intuition, messaging, mindset, launching, email campaigns, clarity, money mastery, and on and on the list goes.

You were sure someone or something had the solution for how to heal you. You were sure one of these things was the answer you had been seeking because surely you didn’t have it.

Although you knew intellectually that self-knowledge was part of the answer, your rational mind distorted it into extreme self-analysis, keeping you stuck in a pattern of paralysis.

Why?

Because you can know yourself all you want but if you don’t trust yourself, no amount of knowledge will help. It will only serve to prove your brokenness beyond repair.

 

So what was it that did the trick? What broke the spell of doubt, distrust, and despair?

 

It was seeing, without condemnation or criticism, that the common denominator in both your success and lack of success was you. It was being able to take 100% responsibility for everything in your life without using it as a weapon to annihilate you. It was revoking victim mentality and shadow consciousness from your system. It was seeing through the distortions to get to the truth.

It was taking on radical self-acceptance and appreciation as a full-time job. It was choosing to see that trust grows and doubt destroys and you get to choose, in every moment, in which to place your energy.

It was understanding, at a visceral level, that connecting, truly, fully connecting to who you truly are, your essence, your higher self, was what would set you free.

And, little by little, day by day, you get stronger; your belief in yourself grows.

Doubt shrinks away and trust takes its place.

And, now you see, more clearly than ever, that only you can choose the path and only you can walk it.

You have to go through the muck and the despair and see there is no way around it so might as well go on and get it done.

You recognize now that it was a death, many deaths, that had to occur to allow your higher self to emerge. And while it felt awful going through it, you knew, at last, you had all the tools, knowledge, and experience necessary to do it and only you could do it.

You had to take the steps forward with full responsibility for all of your life.

As you shed all your false selves, the true you stepped in.

The true you, authentically powerful, which equipped you to speak your truth with everyone, everywhere, no matter what, set you free to fully be the one and only you and to experience the full pleasure of significant success in every area of your life.

 

When You Think You Have Nothing, You Actually Have Everything

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When you feel like you got nothing, what do you do? Do you freak out, get anxious, and start to worry?

 

Oh no. I don’t know what to say or write or post. If I don’t post every day and email my list and do a live video at least three times a week, I’ll never get clients. My business will fail. I’ll have to go work for someone else doing something I’m not that passionate about for not great money. “They” were right. I don’t have what it takes to be an entrepreneur. This is terrible. You then go on to attack yourself, convincing yourself you’re not worthy of your dreams and what you have to offer isn’t of value. You abandon yourself. You swim in disappointment, wallow in despair.

 

What if you could TRUST it is all going to be ok, that this downtime is exactly what you need and you will be given the perfect next steps at the perfect time?

 

Do you trust yourself enough to know the difference between resistance and rest? Do you trust yourself enough to know you are committed to not hiding so you don’t have to worry that this “break” is you sabotaging yourself?

 

Can you lean into it, knowing that your higher self knows best when to move, when to pause, when to reflect, and when to rally?

 

Can you hold yourself with the faith that there are no mistakes?

 

Can you see your process as allowing wine to reach its perfect stage before bottling it for sale? That you rushing to get “it” out there is counterproductive if it isn’t coming from a place of trust and confidence in your soul? The wine will taste like vinegar if you rush it; your efforts will make you bitter as you push and push and don’t see any results from your all your work.  

 

Be like the wine. Sit and be still. Trust in your perfect timing. You will know the exact thing to do, the right words to say to magnetize your clients and opportunities to you, and it will be like you discovered a time warp as you leap ahead further than you ever could have with all your hustle, grind, do more, gotta go, energy.

 

You’ll laugh to think you once thought all that racket was necessary and you’ll remember how hard those days were. Getting up early, staying up late, pushing yourself to do more for fear it was never enough and despite all you did, not having much to show for it. It was exhausting and frustrating. You had started to think it was never going to work for you. All your investment of time, money, and energy just wasn’t paying off.  So doubt crept in. Negativity took hold. Shadow energy started to take over. From there, possibilities are slim. You became myopic, only seeing more of the same old struggle, feeling ashamed of your lack of progress, disappointed in yourself, your business, and your life.

 

If you could only take off the blinders and see with new eyes a world beyond your imagination. A world where ease and flow are the norm, where you deeply and completely trust yourself in the ebbs and flows of your business and life, where you welcome the emptiness and spaciousness with open arms instead of with guarded fear that this is the beginning of the end. A world where you know deep in your bones that everything is working out for you.

 

All you have to do is believe. Believe when there is nothing to prove you should, no indication that anything will change – because you don’t need external proof – you know it begins within. You know that is already metamorphosing so there is no doubt that your external world will change to rise up to your new level of being. It is the only option. So you trust. You simply trust. And you appreciate you, your life, and your business just as they are.

 

These are the most powerful tools of transformation and you now see they were with you all along. They are always with you. You just lost sight of them and it allowed you to see the impact that had on your life. And now, you’ll never go back to that old you, the you full of doubt, disbelief, disappointment, criticism, and negativity. You don’t have time for the shadow anymore. The work of your higher self calls to connect you to your divinity. And now that you’ve tasted the wine of the gods, there’s no other option for you than to step into your sovereignty to create the masterpiece that is your life.

 

You’re magnificent,

 

Kori

 

Stop Apologizing. Start Rising.

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Stop apologizing. It isn’t necessary. Stop worrying about hurting other people’s feelings. You are not responsible for how other people receive what you say nor are you responsible for how other people experience you.

 

You are only responsible for you – for mastering your energy and for being in supreme integrity with your highest expression all the time, everywhere, and with everyone.

 

When you take 100% responsibility for you – your losses and gains, your successes and failures, for your state of being, worth, and value – the way you see the world shifts. You realize that no one and nothing has power over you and that is true for everyone, everywhere. It is not your job to save anyone or monitor yourself in order to not upset someone. That is not being the true you. That is your false self – the one who cares more about what others think of you than seeing the truth of who you are.

 

The truth is you are the only one who has the power to determine your internal state. Once you see that and do the work to master that, you become unshakeable. You hold yourself in high regard and speak your truth always, no matter what. No filtering. No censoring. No apologizing.

 

Your truth is meant to disrupt old patterns and shake things up so if people get stirred up by you, that is a good thing. You are calling them to wake up from their self-imposed numbness.

 

As this happens, you use that energy created from the disruption to continue to catalyze changes. Everything, everything, makes you stronger.

 

I recorded a video yesterday on this very topic. Check it out here.

 

I’d love to hear from you! What stood out for you and what changes are you committed to making?