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Masterful Mindset Coach

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It’s Not You, It’s YOU

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You’re Done All The Things and You’re Pretty Sure that NOTHING Works and It Must Be You

You’re right, It is you, but not in the way you think. This is not an invitation to beat yourself up. But it is an invitation.

So, really what if nothing works?

Therapy, energy work, Akashic records, Landmark, soul editing, past life regression, meditation, visualization, affirmations  – the list is endless. Despite all you have invested in your own healing, the battle within ensues. You’re beginning to wonder if you will ever be truly free – free from everything that is holding you back, free to truly be you, to embrace and trust yourself and fully engage in the work you are here to do?

You’ll do anything to bring your soul’s work into the world and to be the highest expression of you. The rub here is you feel like you have done #allthethings which is why you feel at your wit’s end.

What now? Give  up? Resign yourself to living in this constant battle with yourself, accept a life of struggle and discontent? Distract yourself with any number of addictions?

It won’t work. Settling, distracting, rationalizing. You are meant for more and deep down you know it.

So what will it take?

Honestly, Everything and All of You. It is going to require more of you than you ever imagined but in a much different way than you ever imagined. More courage, bravery, determination and resilience than you ever thought you had.

Why? Because this battle is your soul shaking you back to true life – back to YOU. The truth is all those things you did just kept you as the victim – they had the power to “fix” you. They kept you at their whim – tap this many times, chant this affirmation, write your desires one hundred times a day, ugh. No wonder you didn’t transform yourself and your life – something outside of you was still managing your power.

My love, you aren’t broken.

The work here is in reclaiming your power and your rightful place as god. To recognize and own the truth that nothing and no one has power over you – not family history, not blocked energy, not old patterns, not your mindset, not money, not circumstances, not family – nothing and no one.

And to know and own that as god, you are more powerful than you ever imagined, and as such, you, and only you, can and will transform your life. In quantum leaps.

Because you’re not one to fool around when it comes to your true soul desires – they must be obeyed. So you play and engage in the dance of the divine masculine and feminine – commanding, receiving, living, and submitting to the truth in every area of your life.

No matter what.

So you rise, victorious, as a new soul. A soul who has scoured out all the lies that had held her captive for so long so that all that is left is the truth in her sovereign power to create a new kingdom in which to play, love, and transform, again and again and again.

Are you ready for this? Let’s talk. http://bit.ly/Rebel_Soul

Are You Willing to Let Go of the Old You?

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Life sprouts amongst the dead.

While we are in a state of constantly dying, our natural inclination is lifeward. Growth and expansion are what our instincts pull us toward.

I talk about death a lot, not because I want to die (although I have had those moments where I entertained that idea), but because I understand that I am both figuratively and literally always dying.

The more I resist this, the more I suffer and struggle. The parts of me that need to die are exactly the ones that cling to me the most – the parts that still believe that safety and security come from outside of me, that my worth and value come from what I do and not who I am, and that suffering and struggle are a natural state of being. These parts resist death like some immortal god.

And these are precisely the things that kill you, robbing you of a full, fulfilled, and rich life as they taunt you with their lies – who do you think you are to live a life on your terms and run a business that you love and that is financially successful – ha! You’re a fool. That will never happen so you better get a job. 

You better give up more of you and your dream so that you can fit in and be a part of the quiet desperation you see so prevalent in the world – souls who have lost their souls – those whom traded in their dreams for belonging and acceptance, though they don’t feel accepted nor do they belong anywhere.

Yet this is what it takes, you think – give up more of myself, sacrifice more of me, so that you become a shell of yourself, going through the motions – living in a state of apathy and hopelessness because why dream if it will only end in disappointment? Might as well just settle. It’s not THAT bad. And so the cycle goes.

When really all that’s needed is to give in and DIE to that old self for once and for all – completely. To fully release its hold on you. To set yourself free from your self-imposed constraints, to liberate yourself from the illusion of this world and the lie that anything comes from outside of you.

And to grab your life and dreams by the horns and bend them to your will because a watered down version of your life will no longer do. It never has  – you had just bought into the lie and now you see it for the illusion that it is. You now see that by denying your dream, you abandoned yourself in exchange for some false sense of security from outside of you.

Now you see that only you can provide that for you and so you do.  You know you now have your back no matter what and you will never abandon yourself again, no matter what.  That really is what made all the difference – unwavering self-belief and slaying the illusions.

And this allows you to step into the being you are truly meant to be – bold, courageous, confident, and prosperous, living in your power and genius, and speaking truth with everyone, everywhere,  as you create the masterpiece of your life out of nothing and everything.

Are you willing to let go of who you are and who you think you are to become who you are meant to be?

To you,

Kori

Let’s chat! http://bit.ly/Rebel_Soul

Why You Need to Be More SELFISH!

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Why you need to be more selfish

What? You can’t be serious.

We are taught at a young age to not be selfish. I’m not talking about selfish in the sense of hoarding, being stingy and not sharing, being greedy, or being completely self-absorbed.

I’m talking about it in the sense of doing MORE of what YOU want to do.

When you do what you desire, you are actually serving others. When you honor yourself and your true soul desires, you are present wherever you are, whatever you are doing, and with whomever you are with. That is the greatest gift you can give yourself and others.

I used to think that there was a cap to how much I could take care of myself and have fun. I would beat myself up by reminding myself of the fun things I had done that week as if it wasn’t ok to want more. Sounds ridiculous, right?

I came to realize that everyone’s threshold for fun is different. Mine happens to be high. It could have something to do with having struggled with depression for many years, who knows. It doesn’t matter.

What matters is I honor my soul and spirit. If they call for more fun, I must obey. I must be selfish. Because when I am, I am a much better version of me.

Think about it. How do you feel when you have engaged in an activity that you love? What kind of person are you then? Are you the kind of person you want to spend time with? Heck yes. What about when you are driving yourself to the bone, working nonstop, putting off fun, and forgoing any semblance of self-care? Do you want to be around you then? No way.

So if honoring your soul and spirit and what they are craving is selfish, then you absolutely need to be more selfish. And to hold those commitments to yourself as if they were the most important appointments in your day – that, no matter what comes up or gets thrown your way, you do not postpone them or push them aside. They are as important as the air you breathe because they are what give you life. And that life is what serves others in the most profound ways.

My commitments to myself begin in the morning (movement, meditation, and writing)  and continue to expand each day and week as I pay attention to what my soul is nudging me toward.

I recently added these to my list:

Dance every day. Laugh every day. 20+ minutes outside every day. One social/fun event each week. One date night each week. Zero complaints. Act immediately on my intuition.

I am sure my list will change as I crave different experiences and as these commitments become just what I do and who I am.

What about you? What lights you up? How committed are you to doing those things? How often do you break your commitments to yourself? What can you do today to be more selfish?

I’d love to hear!

To being more selfish,

Kori 

Let’s connect! http://bit.ly/Rebel_Soul

Only You Get To Be YOU

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When was the last time you lied – whether straight up lied, or a white lie, or withheld information, or simply said everything was fine when it really wasn’t?

How did you feel afterward? Maybe there was a part of you that was mildly relieved to have avoided some potential conflict but there was still a part of you that didn’t feel quite right. The energy you put out to the world was low vibrational energy –  that of not being willing to speak the truth, no matter what.

No matter what “they” might say. No matter who might not like it. No matter who you think you’ll upset or disappoint. No matter the consequences. No matter what.

The difference is huge and your energy shows it.

When you speak the truth, without agenda, without hesitation, with nothing to prove, just the truth, you free up massive amounts of energy.

Think of the energy that is pent up from thinking you have to act a certain way, can only say certain things, dress a certain way, be a particular way depending on the situation or who you’re with.

You’re always contorting yourself to try and fit other people’s expectations of you or to portray a certain image or maintain a specific perception of you that you want people to have.

You rarely allow yourself to be truly, fully you.

Because what then? What if I upset someone? What if I end up alone? What if…

What if you took all that away? Think of all the energy you would FREE up.

What are all the ways you could use that energy – the things you could create, the problems you could solve, the dreams you could realize?

When you speak the truth, no matter what, there is no proving, modulating, or self-censoring. It is simply the truth, which is you as your highest self. No holding back. No seeking approval or validation. No trying to fit in or conform. You being you in your purest form, everywhere, with everyone.

When you do that, your energy is palpable. You are magnetic. Your presence is powerful because it is free from all societal constraints. You are a clear vessel and your message resonates with the tone of truth attracting your ideal clients, opportunities, and desires.

You hold yourself and your work in high esteem. You know you and your work have value, significance, and impact because it all comes from within you.

Energy mastery is the freeing up of all the energy trapped in your shadow and its lies, relinquishing its hold on you by making it bow down and submit to the truth, and living every area of your life in 100% truth, always, no matter what.

In that place, anything and everything is possible. You are operating at the highest level with ease and the sweet freedom to reach beyond your biggest dreams. And the best part of it all? You get to be YOU.

To being all of you,

Kori

Let’s connect! http://bit.ly/Rebel_Soul

Increase Your Career and Biz Satisfaction

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Does this sound familiar?

You are good at your job. You make reasonably good money. The work comes easy for you. The problem is you aren’t stimulated and it doesn’t feel meaningful. You do your time but you aren’t totally engaged, You feel disconnected from your soul and spirit which are calling you for more, for something different, for something that lights you up.

You are currently in your zone of excellence. In the beginning, it was great. It was exciting. But now that you’ve mastered it, it leaves you wanting.

You are being invited to step into your zone of genius – the place where you are on fire, ideas flow to you easily, you are stimulated and engaged. You feel alive and purposeful in your work and in your life.

How do you tap into that?

First, you must send appreciation and gratitude to your current job or the current state of your business.

Spend a few minutes listing all the things you appreciate about it. Let yourself really feel it.

Next, engage your senses and emotions as you visualize what being in your zone of genius would look and feel like. What activities would you be engaging in? What kind of conversations would you be having? What kind of people would you be spending time with? What is the contribution you would be making to the world? What is your energy like? What excites you the most about this next level?

Allow this image to become real. See yourself already there. How do you walk, talk, dress, think, believe, and act?

Step into this person now in some way, however small it might be. Fully commit.

You could start with your conversations so that you are speaking only in terms of fulfillment and expectation. Scour all doubt and disbelief from your language.

Next, align your beliefs with this new way of being and root out all the stories that have held you back so that you can destroy them.

Your beliefs dictate your reality so hold only those beliefs that support you as the highest, fullest expression of you – in your genius, in your power, and in your glory.

Each day spend more time operating from this new way of being, appreciating every area of your life  – no matter what it looks like. Nothing transforms through negativity and criticism so be sure you are mastering your energy to stay in a place of possibility and grateful anticipation.

Cultivate unwavering belief in what you are transforming and creating. Make it real in your mind, thoughts, beliefs, words, and actions.

Once you realize you, and only you, are responsible for your well-being and success, you equip yourself with the tools to make it happen. You know you best.

As you do this, your satisfaction in every area of your life will increase which will then incite you to raise your standards and reach even higher.

You are meant to grow and evolve. The fire of desire to be the highest expression of you is there to temper you, to shape you into the person you are meant to be. And that person and their work is truly a masterpiece – valuable beyond measur and deeply, soulfully satisfying.

To your masterpiece,

Kori 

Let’s connect! http://bit.ly/Rebel_Soul

Set Yourself FREE From Anxiety and Stress

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If you don’t like what you see, change it. You are the one who created it.

Your thinking is based on your beliefs which then shapes your perceptions which then dictates your reality.

As a young woman, I fell into the belief that I had to look a certain way in order to get approval. I started to believe that the way I looked wasn’t good enough, that I was ugly, not thin enough, not fit enough, not attractive enough. The more I believed this, the more I saw this as I looked in the mirror at myself and the more I searched out proof that it was indeed true.  I began to obsess about what I ate and how much I exercised. But it didn’t matter no matter what my body looked like, how little I ate, or how much I exercised, I kept reinforcing instead of disproving those dysfunctional beliefs.  This led to close to a decade of eating disorders, body shame, and low self-esteem.

All of this was created by my own disordered beliefs which fed disordered thinking which then created a disordered reality because disordered beliefs and thinking are really there to limit and constrict you.

While I was going through this, a part of me knew these thoughts and beliefs were destructive yet they had such deep roots that simple awareness wasn’t enough to remove them.

I had to change the way I was seeing and perceiving it. I had to connect with the deepest desire of the transformation of this challenge and what it felt like already being fulfilled. Then I had to live from that space. I had to BE transformed before it actually occurred in order for it to happen. I had to live in that place of unwavering faith, trust, and absolute conviction that the freedom from this self-imposed prison was already mine.

As I did, my beliefs shifted. The anxiety around food, exercise, and body image lifted. My thoughts changed from destructive to supportive. My reality transformed. I no longer abused my body with overeating, over-exercising, or toxic thoughts and beliefs.

I honored and appreciated my body. I fed and moved my body with love, joy,  and pleasure. A huge weight had been lifted. I could breathe. I could think clearly as my mind wasn’t constantly critiquing my body or obsessing about what I ate or how much I needed to exercise.

I created freedom. Freedom to love the skin I was in, no matter what. Freedom to be the fullest expression of me.

This pertains to every area of your life – whether it be your body, your career or business, your finances, or your relationships. Whatever you are choosing to believe in each of those areas is exactly what you will experience. And you will continue to find proof of those beliefs – whether they support you or destroy you.

Because negative beliefs are like weeds. Sometimes you hardly notice them. Then the next thing you know, they have completely taken over your garden.

Tending the garden of your thoughts and beliefs to ensure that only truth grows requires daily, sometimes hourly, maintenance. You must dig the roots out again and again and again until there is nothing left for them to cling to.

This is the work of creating a body and life you love and ultimate freedom – clearing out the old and planting the new over and over until all that remains is the truth.

And, as the saying goes, the truth will indeed set you free.

To freedom,

Kori

Want to connect: http://bit.ly/Rebel_Soul