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The Slog is Preparing You For Victory

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“When does it get to be easy? It’s such a slog.”

I was having coffee with a good friend last night and we were discussing life’s twists and turns. 

This morning, I was listening to a lecture by Wayne Dyer and he talked about falling and it brought me back to our conversation. 

He said that we are afraid to fall, we think it is the worst possible thing but in actuality, it is exactly what is needed in order to rise. The fall is preparing us for what is coming and gives us the opportunity to generate the energy to get to the next level. When you can see that you can’t get to that next level without falling first, you can shift your relationship with falling. The fall is what shapes us into the person we are truly meant to be – more resilient, kinder, stronger, more compassionate, more grounded and aware, and ultimately, more godlike. 

How can you see the fall as perfect? As exactly what you need to get to where you deeply desire to go? How can you see what it is providing for you? That it is your strength, not your demise? 

My friend is in the thick of it, wrestling with some serious inner demons. These demons must be dealt with and cast out so she can step into the life she truly desires and be the woman she is meant to be. Once she shifts her relationship with the slog and sees it is working for her, not against her, she can reclaim her power in creating the dream that has, as of yet, remained elusive. 

When you are in the middle of a storm in your life, it is easy to get sucked into the storm, to focus on the storm, to question why you are experiencing this storm, to curse the storm. 

What you are doing is giving more energy to the storm and it only gets stronger. This cycle will repeat until you make the decision to change it. You must completely transform your relationship with the storm. It is not to be feared. It is actually guiding you to exactly where you need to be. 

Surrender your desires. Release your need to control everything. Bolster your faith. 

Trust that somehow this is all perfect and will work out perfectly for you. When you give more energy to the joy, appreciation, gratitude, freedom, and empowerment you will feel having risen out of the storm as a new person than you give to the fear, anxiety, and worry that the storm will never end, the storm can dissipate more quickly than you ever imagined. 

You must shift your focus. You must command your energy. You must be vigilant in not allowing a single unwanted belief or thought to enter into your consciousness and to instead, cultivate absolute conviction in your prayers already being answered. Then you must live in that state of being. Right NOW.

As we talked about her allowing herself to feel her dream as real, I got goosebumps. I could see and feel it. I knew it as the truth. 

Always give more power to the truth than to the lies that work to keep you down. 

Know your desire as realized, know yourself as the person who realized their desires, and walk boldly into the day prepared to encounter opportunities, people, and situations that are there to guide you along the way.

You are not alone. You are not meant to spend your life in suffering. 

You are worthy of all your desires and beyond. Allow yourself to receive. 

Step into appreciation. Step into joy. 

Celebrate your genuine heart and soul desires for waking you up and calling you to the true you. You are more than equipped to overcome every obstacle and to emerge as the victor, again and again. 

You are already victorious.

Why We Choose to Struggle Instead of Succeed

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Why We Choose to Struggle Instead of Succeed

At the beginning of my business, I did what came naturally and what lit me up. This resulted in filling workshops, booking clients, and marketing posts flowing out of me easily. 

Then it’s as if a mac truck hit me and I stopped. 

On a conscious level, I wanted to be successful doing something I am passionate about. 

On a subconscious level, being successful didn’t feel safe. It had to be hard. 

This fear of success blocked that amazing flow. In its place, I created struggle and suffering – proving I wasn’t worthy of success after all.

It sounds ridiculous. Why wouldn’t you want to be successful in your business? 

You do, that’s the thing. But when your subconscious beliefs about what it means to be successful based on your early programming are more powerful than your conscious beliefs, you can take all the right actions and do all the right things but you will continue to sabotage your success again and again. 

You must explore your deep-rooted beliefs about success. What did you pick up on as a child? That it required tremendous sacrifice? That you have to give up your soul for it? That you’ll lose your family and friends because of it? That it’s not who you are? That people will take advantage of you? That’ll you’ll screw it up and lose it all? And what would it say about your parents if you were successful and it was easy for you if you watched them work hard all their lives to get by?

Explore with an open mind and curiosity, NOT criticism. When you are a child, it is all you know and what you learn is required to survive.

Be compassionate with yourself. Forgive yourself for blocking your success or sabotaging it. Do the work to clear out these old beliefs fully. Take on the identity of a person who is confident, comfortable, and authentic in their success. A person who is successful by living their mission and purpose with impact, joy, creativity, and generosity.

You are here with your particular interests and your unique wiring for the specific purpose of unleashing your true brilliance to the world – a brilliance that can only be created by you. 

It’s time to release the old identity, clear out the toxic beliefs and thoughts, and reclaim your truth, power, and success.

What You are Seeking is You

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What if truly being you was the only way you could make incredible money, have the relationship that is beyond your dreams, the life and lifestyle that is beyond your dreams, the body and health that is beyond your dreams and you could dream even bigger? 

Watch the video here. 

What are you choosing? 

To stay in the same operating system day after day, hoping things will change, thinking you are doing what is necessary but in reality it just keeps you stuck.

You’re scared. Scared of getting burned. Scared to make the wrong decision. Scared of looking like a fool – scared of what people will say. 

As long as you continue to operate from that same state of being with the same thoughts and beliefs, you will continue to experience the same level of being stuck, discontent, confused, and frustrated. And your dreams will feel further away than ever. 

Until you are willing to face the demons of change – discomfort, disapproval, rejection, fears of both failure and success – change will elude you as will your dreams. 

It doesn’t have to be hard – think about how hard it is to live your life the way you’ve been living it – and the stress, anxiety, overwhelm, and frustration that creates and the coping mechanisms required to live that way – that is what’s hard – living out of alignment is what’s hard. Not feeling the freedom to be truly you is what’s hard.

Change is scary, for sure, as it will require you to wake up and acknowledge all the ways you have kept yourself stuck and then demand you take different actions,think different thoughts, hold different beliefs. 

But what’s the cost of not changing?

Self-loathing, quiet desperation, continuing the cycle of struggle, suffering, depression, addiction

And the benefit of doing the work to be truly you in every area of your life?

You get to live the life you’ve always dreamed of in every area of your life 

once you do, you see living in complete alignment with who you are is so much easier than what you were doing before – living someone else’s life, being different people for different situations, suppressing your true feelings, desires, and truth. 

Being all you all the time with everyone everywhere sets you free – freer than you have ever been before,

Here’s how you can come into better alignment with the true you RIGHT NOW: 

1 -Ask yourself, Who are you with your friends? Activity buddies? Coworkers/colleagues? Family? Kids’ friends? At the coffee shop? With the server? Store clerk? Notice the impact of how you are on your state of being and energy. Where are you not speaking the truth? How does that impact your state of being?

2 – When you interact with someone, connect with you first – don’t give the automatic response. Ask yourself, what is true for me and share that. Risk being vulnerable and creating authentic connections. Check your energy – notice how you feel. How much more fulfilling are these encounters vs the hollow and shallow ones? 

3- Honor every instance of truth in your day so you can create more of them. Notice what that makes possible for you.

Pay attention to how things start to shift from you owning you and what is true for you – how it changes your relationship with you (greater integrity and valuing of yourself), with others (more trust and honesty), and the choices you make in activities, food, people, conversations, and beliefs.

It becomes a raising of standards – out of automatically operating to authentically relating.

When you are authentic, own who you are, what you are about, what you desire, you open yourself up to be an energetic match for all that you desire and beyond and you create more experiences that match that. 

Divine work, divine relationships, divine body, divine mind.

On our own, we often choose the path of least resistance, we convince ourselves it’s not that bad, we normalize suffering and struggle when it is anything but. If you are tired of feeling frustrated, caught in indecision and analysis paralysis, unsure what you desire and how to get it, and don’t want to keep living a watered-down life, book a call with me because thriving is your true nature and you can only truly thrive when you are 100% truly you, with everyone, everywhere, all the time. 

Why? Why do this work?

So that you are not in a job that is sucking away your soul, a relationship that leaves you feeling empty, friendships that feel fake, a body that you are constantly battling, continuing this cycle of self-loathing, depression, despair, disconnection, and distraction and feeling like life is passing you by and you want off this crazy train, out of anxiety and indecision and frustration, to speak your truth and unleash your unapologetic self-expression, to stand in your authentic power to create a life of meaning, prosperity, ease, and joy.

What’s that worth?

Honestly, it’s priceless. 

Cheap and Easy Ain’t Cheap or Easy

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You want to make some changes in your life. Be more decisive. Have better boundaries. Change your self-defeating thoughts and behaviors.

So you look for a quick fix. There must be something cheap and easy that will get me out of this rut. 

So maybe you buy a course or enroll in a lower investment program that sounds appealing – change your life in 30 days – voila!

Only it doesn’t work. So you might go about your way and then get drawn to another program or course. This one is different though! It’s so pretty and shiny and full of great promises.

And you repeat the pattern of dipping your toe in the pool of change yet never truly diving in head first, fully committed, willing to take a chance on real change, which requires real risk and investment. 

When you walk around thinking change should be quick and easy, all you do is delay change, which is not cheap nor easy because years go by and you find yourself in this same place of discontent, restlessness, and disconnection. 

Living a life that doesn’t light you up, fill you with a sense of purpose and meaning, and allow you to express the legacy you are here to create is living a slow death.

A life of quiet desperation which is actually quite costly. You don’t feel good about yourself so you don’t take very good care of yourself. You get sick often. You lash out at your partner and kids. You isolate yourself from your friends. You distance yourself from your family. You spend a lot of time feeling depressed which leads to any number of distractions from alcohol to food to overshopping to social media bingeing, or years of buying antidepressants and therapy, not to mention years of your life passing you in a low grade form of misery that you’ll never get back. This creates even more self-loathing, frustration, and discouragement. 

It’s not easy and is much harder actually than changing would be. 

True change requires commitment, great risk, tremendous courage, and incredible determination. 

If it were cheap and easy, we’d all be rich, thin, and happy but much of the adult population suffer from some form of anxiety or depression.

What if you could be an example for your children or family or community about what it takes to make lasting changes in your life? That you didn’t give them simple platitudes to just believe in themselves and viola their life is everything they wanted it to be. 

Of course, self-belief is a huge component of change but it’s much more than just that. It takes a deeper level of transformation in every area of your life. 

And, when you do the work to reprogram yourself, the changes you make last. It isn’t a quick fix – it’s a whole new operating system, which runs more effectively and efficiently and is an authentic reflection of who you truly are as you have now shed all the layers that have kept you stuck for so many years. 

What emerges is nothing short of miraculous. A new way of being, believing, thinking, and seeing. A whole new life. 

It’s not cheap. It’s not easy. And you don’t want your life to be either – you want the rich challenge of the adventure, to create and live in a state of flow, creativity, and prosperity, and to live with absolute conviction in who you are and what you are here to do and know with certainty that everything, everything, is preparing you for just that. 

I guide my clients on the greatest adventure of their lives out of anxiety and confusion into being decisive action-takers with clear, firm boundaries, speaking their unfiltered truth, living in their full potential and authentic power with deep meaning, prosperity, freedom, and joy.


Let’s start your adventure together. Book your call with me here.

Do You Trust You Are Meant for More

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You are on the right path.  You simply lost faith and trust in yourself someone along the way. 

You were searching and started thinking everyone besides you had the answers so you stopped looking inside. This took you down the long road away from you. You disconnected from the true you because you didn’t feel safe or good enough. Surely, you thought, this other person has the answers.

My love, you have the answers. You know what to do. You merely lost you way. Your path is still there. It is right in front of you, hidden in plain sight. It’s waiting for you to come back to you – to the place where you can see clearly again. 

To see, with new eyes, what it is you truly desire from this one precious life of yours. To connect deeply with a sense of purpose and passion – this core knowing inside of you about what you are here to do, the genius you are here to unleash. To honor your desire for freedom, adventure, and the money to support you in your work and in your play. To fully release everything that has blocked you from receiving and experiencing all of this fully and unapologetically. 

There is no shame in wanting to live a life of great abundance – your desires chose you and are being activated in you so that you will become the person you are truly meant to be. 

The person who is rich financially, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and physically. The person who lives with deep integrity, radical trust, impeccable truth, unwavering self-belief, high standards, clear, firm boundaries, fierce focus and determination, and takes bold, courageous, and even terrifying actions to live in alignment with the work and life written on their soul. 

This is no watered-down life. This is all-in, no matter how you feel, how long it takes, or what your circumstances look like, This happens now. It is non-negotiable. It is your life, after all. 

My job is to guide you back to you, not to tell you to do it my way or convince you I have the secret formula. My job is to guide you to uncover your own secret formula, to unlock your inner goldmine that holds all the answers. 

I won’t tell you how but I will show you the way to get  exactly where you want to go. You have to go without seeing, you have to release the need for it to make sense, and you have to rely on trust like never before. You will be stepping into the unknown which is where all magic happens.

Step up to the true you and prepare to be astounded by what you create.

I’m ready when you are.

Will you answer the call?

All you have to do is say YES.

To your greatness unveiled,

Kori

Unveil the True You to Create Significant Meaningful Success

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You crave doing the work of your soul, not this grind you find yourself in. This grind that you convinced yourself was necessary in order to receive approval and validation. 

You bought into the allure of conformity – it’s easier that way – follow these steps to success and then you’ll feel ok with you and your life. 

Only it didn’t work for you. 

You got the advanced degrees and training and kept moving up. Each move up got you accolades which fed your need for belonging yet at the same time it ate a little piece of your soul. You see, you kept disconnecting from yourself. You sold yourself a false set of goods and now you’re left empty-handed. 

You’ve lost your passion and joy. You feel empty inside. You know you “should” feel happy. You have a good job, a good family and friends, you’re healthy overall. It’s just this nagging inside that won’t go away. 

This hole in your soul can’t be filled with everyday distractions. It requires all of you. 

Part of you is afraid. What if there is no end to this discontent? Am I always going to be just a bit unhappy – isn’t that how everyone feels? Aren’t I just supposed to suck it up? Book a vacation or go shopping? 

You’ve done these things and they don’t work. It’s a temporary fix to a deeper issue. 

You don’t want to live this life just getting by, doing your time, numbing yourself. You want to experience the joy of  meaningful work that is the true reflection of your soul and you want to be well paid for it while having rich relationships, engaging in activities that light you up, all while having incredible health. 

This isn’t a pipedream. It is the desire written on your heart. It isn’t merely a fantasy either, which means it will require work beyond simply imagining it. 

This work will test you and challenge you in a whole new way as it ultimately hones you into the person you are truly meant to be so that you can have all that you truly desire and beyond. 

When you want to have it all, you must be willing to give it your all. 

No matter how scary, uncertain, unpopular, or inconvenient. 

Are you ready to be all in?

Book your call with me and let’s unleash the work of your soul and unveil the true you to create meaningful, significant success with passion, purpose, and joy.