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Wrestling the Inner Bully Requires Elevation

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The problem is that you feel like you’re almost always at odds with you. 

You don’t feel comfortable in your own skin. You come across as confident but you don’t feel it as true for you. You want to crawl outside of yourself. You feel like a fraud. There are all these people doing great things you think, and you, you’re just going through the motions, not engaging wholly or fully in much of anything. It’s like you don’t even know why you’re here sometimes. 

What is the point of it all anyway? Follow the yellow brick road only to find it led you to disappointment and a sense of emptiness, which you then try to fill with alcohol, food, or nice things. That all just makes you feel even emptier. If all these things – money, travel, a newer car, clothes, social affairs, a nice home – don’t do it, what, then, will? 

Is there no end to this longing for something more? Will you ever feel a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment, meaning and purpose? Will it always remain elusive? 

It makes you tired and bored.

You want to feel excitement, passion, and joy for what you do, who you are, how you live, and the legacy you are creating. 

You want to be remembered for having contributed something grand to the world, not just having gone through the motions without so much as leaving a mark. What kind of life is that anyway?

You want to live a grand life – to feel a deep sense of soul connection to your work, to engage in and cultivate rich and rewarding relationships, to have energy and enthusiasm for the activities you love, and to feel vibrant, alive, and on fire for the life you created. You want people to see you, feel your energy light up the room, and think, what do they have, what is it about them that is so magnetic? 

You want to know the answer is – what I got is me – the high level, powerful, confident, and courageous me. 

You will then have tapped into your own pure source energy at all levels and there will be no stopping you. 

It’s going to be a helluva ride. 

Are you ready to live an upleveled life? To create lasting change and live at the highest level of being, thinking, and operating? Evolve your mind, body, and soul to create a life you truly love that is the purest expression of you?

Schedule your call with me and let’s begin. http://bit.ly/Activate_You

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The Power of Connecting to the True You

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What happens when you meet your true needs authentically, when you listen deeply and give yourself what you really want instead of what you think you want?

No more stress eating, overindulging, drinking one too many, bingeing on social media or Netflix, clicking BuyNow one too many times on Amazon, numbing out with any number of distractions and then feeling like crap when the buzz wears off.

When you listen deep down to the true need, you can then fill it well, which supports your growth and expansion. Instead of feeding the surface need to alleviate the discomfort, using any number of distractions yet afterward finding the need is still there, you give yourself love, support, attention, validation, and acknowledgment. You can’t get that from chocolate, alcohol, social media, or tv. It can only come from within.

When you demonstrate to yourself that you can be trusted to meet your true needs, the distractions lose their allure and you can then enjoy them for what they are – a nice pleasure that can enhance your experience instead of being used to numb yourself out. 

Then what happens is you notice that the discomfort no longer scares you. The challenging emotions and situations can now be approached with curiosity and compassion and allow you to discover the true need beneath the discomfort. You see you are equipped to meet that need well which then allows even more desires to come to you because now you trust you to support you. 

You see you won’t dismiss or discount your desires. You won’t abandon yourself when things get tough. You’ll show up even stronger for yourself and you’ll start to feel safe in expanding, progressing and succeeding in all you desire without holding back, or feeling guilty, selfish, or arrogant. 

You’ll see that being the highest level of you requires the highest levels of awareness, attention, appreciation, and care for your core self. 

In that divine environment, you reach new heights and go beyond what you dreamed possible. You experience a deep sense of purpose, inner power and security, humility, joy, and grace. 

You have found what you were truly searching for.

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Embracing the Contradiction that You Are

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You see the world differently.

You experience the energy of people, things, and situations palpably. You crave deeper conversations about life, love, loss, and learning, none of this meaningless small talk for you. 

You are drawn to the unique and obscure. People may not fully understand what that means for you but it is your thing. Energy. Intellect. Compassion. Psychology. Quantum Leaps. Catalyzing Change. Deep Soul Healing. 

Now you want to tap into it more deeply. 

You want to fully embrace the way you see the world instead of hiding it and holding back, fearing people will think you’re strange and crazy. You’re ready to let your freak flag fly because you know that is the true you. And you want guidance on your path to this unapologetic version of you because you now it will involve disrupting old patterns and rocking the boat. 

You’ve often thought about what it would be like to be fully free to be you – to stop conforming to any set prescription or formula. In the past, you held back. You weren’t ready for all it would entail. Now you know you are ready and willing to do whatever it takes to be all in on you.

You don’t fit any one mold. You are a contradiction.

You are analytical and a free spirit. You want security and freedom. You are an intellectual and you lean towards the woo of the metaphysical world. You’re kind and compassionate and part witch. You’re a yogi and not a yogi. You meditate and work with energy and you lean towards the science behind it. You’re into psychology and know the power of shifting energy.

You can rock it at a black tie event and have kicked it with coffee farmers in Nicaragua who lived without electricity and indoor plumbing. You can easily be the dancing queen and just as easily scale steep mountains. You can savor a well-made Manhattan and savor a cup of hot herbal tea with the same gusto. You love the comforts of home and are just as comfortable carrying your home in a backpack as you venture across new and foreign lands. You can write a beautiful story and refinish hardwood floors. You love the sweat and dirt of working in the garden and you love the luxury of enjoying a fine meal in an upscale restaurant with white linens.

You’re not the hippy nor the millionaire entrepreneur nor the corporate gal nor the bleeding heart activist though you have elements of each of these in you. 

You’re your own brand. 

Your own brand of madness and brilliance – but really what’s the difference?

Love,

 The Mistress of Madness – Turning your Madness into Brilliance

Uncertainty Requires Trust and Surrender

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Sit cross-legged, spine straight, reach out your hands and interlock them with your mediation partner. Look into their eyes and meditate on oneness. Continue for 62 minutes.

What? 62 minutes? You’re kidding me. Holding my arms out and sitting cross-legged for over an hour. No way. My mind went haywire with how ridiculous this was. 

Yet, I began anyway.

I connected to my breath. I adjusted my body to release the tension in my shoulders on multiple occasions. I released the number of minutes from my mind. It would visit me when I would feel the pain and strain of maintaining the posture. I heard these words in my mind – ‘You are supported. Stop forcing it. Let go.’ 

I came back to my breath, envisioning my chest and back supporting my arms. I connected to my core to gain strength and my breath to sustain me.

This was one of the five 62 minute meditations I completed in the White Tantric Yoga workshop. Yes, five. 

What I found interesting was that one of the most challenging aspects was the uncertainty – how long has it been, how much longer, can I make it, is it almost over?

It made me think about life and how much of our lives we live in that state of being – how much longer is this going to last, can I make it, do I have what it takes, will I succeed in this? 

Often this is when we are going through a particularly challenging period in our lives and the uncertainty of its ending starts to gnaw away at us.

Will I ever get a job? Will I ever pay off my debt? Will I ever get over this loss? Will I ever be in a long-term loving relationship? Will I ever feel truly happy? Will I ever feel good in my body? Will I ever feel ok with me? 

You don’t know how long this period will last and it can drive you mad. You so desperately want to know when it will end. If only you knew that in a month or six months, things would turn around, you could handle your current situation with more faith and grace.

The thing is it WILL turn around. It will. It may take longer than you desire but it will turn around. Often what makes it take longer is our resistance to lean into what we are going through. What is needed is to increase our faith that we are supported and to let go. 

When I was going through a significant loss and most days included episodes of such incredible emotional pain, I wasn’t sure if there was an end to the grief. At times, it was hard to imagine what it would be like to be on the other side.

I let myself feel it all, as scary and overwhelming as it was. I sought support and I took steps to support myself with activities that felt nurturing. Day after day, week after week, and eventually the darkness lifted. I still felt the hole in my heart and the loss in my life but it no longer WAS my life. I learned new skills and tools to build myself anew. I didn’t put a timeline on my healing. I honored the process and took it easy. This was no time to get out the whip and bully me into getting it together already.

Yet we often do that with other challenges. Come on. Figure it out, get going, step it up. 

We neglect to honor everything has its own perfect evolutionary period. Each challenge is honing us and shaping us and sometimes we may need quite a bit of that. 

What if we could trust ourselves enough to allow ourselves the space and time required to heal and move forward to the next right place instead of pushing, rushing, and worrying about when we will get there?

How much of our lives are spent wanting to just “get it over with”? What if the very thing we want to get over is the very thing we need to lean into?

As I followed my breath and let go, my arms felt lighter. They were no longer these heavy things I had to keep suspended in mid-air. They were simply energy. When the instructor guided us to raise our arms to come out of the meditation, I thought to myself, Wow, that was 62 minutes? That was fast! 

What can you do today to stop forcing yourself to be somewhere you aren’t even though you deeply desire that next level of progression? 

You will get a great job. You will pay off your debt. You will heal from your losses. You will be with the perfect partner for you and feel profound love. You will experience a state of contentment and satisfaction, and even joy. You will feel comfortable and confident in your own skin. You will love you completely. You will be the true you.

Trust yourself and trust in the process. It is guiding you and supporting you in becoming who you are truly meant to be. That is not something to be rushed. 

Love,

Kori

P.S. If you are ready for support and guidance in creating your ideal state of being in every area of your life, schedule your call with me.

How Dis-Ease Creates Disconnection

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There is a disease out there that plagues almost everyone. Few, if any, are immune. It wreaks havoc on relationships, careers, and health. It leads to all manner of addictions, depression, extramarital affairs, identity crises, dysfunctional relationships, self-loathing, and overall life dissatisfaction

It’s the Dis-ease of Disconnection.

In a world of distraction where we are all more connected than ever, we are losing our connection to ourselves.

This has caused increased lack of self-trust, self-belief, self-esteem, and self-worth, a disconnection from intuition, true desire, and an inner guidance system, addiction to all manner of distractions, and a constant state of comparison as we see the world through the eyes of social media. It’s like being caught up in a circus that you don’t recall joining.

We’ve lost who we are. We increasingly feel the pressure to be who the world (family, friends, society) wants us to be and begin to see ourselves as they see us. 

We’ve forgotten who we are at our core. This disconnection from our true selves creates a sense of dis-ease in us. 

This has resulted in unfulfilling relationships as our desire for true connection grows while our ability and the ability of others to connect on a deep, intimate, and vulnerable level has diminished.

We become numb, insulating ourselves from feeling the intensity of emotions within us (the dis-ease that is part of life). We stuff them down, dismiss them, or discount them, thus abandoning a part of ourselves that wants to be seen, heard, and acknowledged.

This disconnection also affects our work as we go through the motions while our desire for meaning and purpose in our work gets drowned out by alcohol, food, media, or whatever our distraction of choice may be.

And, of course, it affects our health. Increased stress, anxiety, worry, depression, anger, resentment, and resignation impact our brain, our heart, and our body, leaving us in a low level of operating and at risk for all manner of disease and ill health. 

The crazy thing is we are designed for connection – true connection. We all have an innate longing to be seen, heard, acknowledged, and valued. 

That has to come from within. 

When you seek from others what you must first give yourself, you will always come up empty-handed. Then you will jump back on the carousel of distraction and further disconnection, seeking to escape from yourself, what you are experiencing, and what you feel about that experience –  the dis-ease it created.

You must stop. You must connect with the energy of the moment and all that entails, as scary and uncomfortable as it may be, especially when confronting emotions you have spent your life running from. 

This is the path to true freedom. An invitation to stop running away from, and instead, run toward, you. 

To see yourself with new eyes and to live into a new state of being. 

It will require all of you.

It will feel risky, uncertain, scary even, and at times, uncomfortable as hell. 

And that’s the point – to see the hell you have been so afraid to face is not hell at all but instead an opportunity for redemption. 

The redemptive power of true soul connection is your liberation from the dis-ease of disconnection.

It is the invitation to the life you desire that you have been waiting for. 

The wait is over. 

You are the ringleader. This is your show.

Increasing Integrity with You Starts with You

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How are you at keeping your commitments to you? Do you often push them aside and say yes to someone else’s request or to something else instead?

Yesterday I made a commitment to myself that I would make myself a green smoothie as a reward and celebration for doing a FB live.

Once I completed the video, however, I wanted to keep working. There was an email to write, more posts to create, a video to share. I had a limited amount of time before I had to leave for a meeting. I caught myself wanting to work, work, work until the very last second and forget about the smoothie.

I stopped myself. I reminded myself that I had made a commitment to myself and I needed to honor that commitment. I closed my laptop and headed to the kitchen to create a yummy green beverage. I then took my pup for a quick walk and was out the door in time to make my meeting without rushing. 

This may not seem like a big deal but it is. My tendency is always to work, to squeeze in just a little more work and to squeeze out the fun. It is a recipe for burnout. 

The other thing it does is it creates distrust in myself. If I can’t count on myself to honor my promises to me, why make them in the first place?

We are often great about honoring our commitments to others. We are not so great at honoring our commitments to ourselves. And it often goes unnoticed. 

The thing is we all have a little child inside us that longs for love and play. Think about how you felt when a caregiver or parent made a commitment to you and broke it or how your own children feel when you back out of plans.

It feels pretty awful yet we do it to ourselves all the time.

We commit to working out and then we stay at work longer instead or forgo the gym for happy hour. We commit to eating healthier and then hit the drive-thru on the way home. We commit to creating more quality time with our partner and then we turn on Netflix and zone out.

Our desires and our actions are in conflict. We start to lose our integrity with ourselves. We start to doubt our ability to make the changes we desire. We lose faith in ourselves. This is a slippery slope. If we can’t count on ourselves, who can we count on? 

We have to build our trust with ourselves and the best way to do that is to honor your commitments to yourself, no matter how small and insignificant they may seem.

Your word is gold, treat it as such. 

What is one commitment you will make to yourself today and honor? No matter what?


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