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Kori Gouge

Transformational Alchemist | Writer

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It’s time to be true to YOU in your life AND your business.

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I was listening to NPR on the way home from dropping my boyfriend off at the airport. Edie Falco was on and they asked her how she got her role on The Sopranos, which was her first big role. She said, “It was a regular audition. I didn’t think I was going to get it so I didn’t think much about it and they called me that night and offered me the role.”

 

That is often how it works – when you are NOT attached to the outcome, you show up more real, more authentic, and less desperate. You are not trying to PROVE yourself by securing this role or this sale to determine your worth or value in the world. When you show up as truly you, that’s when things change. That’s when you are magnetic. People love someone who stands up for what they believe in, don’t cave in under pressure, and never sell out on themselves, their values, or ideals, no matter what.   Who they are is who they are, anywhere and everywhere. They aren’t one person at home and another at work and another with friends and another with family. They are ok with all of who they are, even when that makes them unpopular.

 

Where are you still holding onto the approval of others? Where are you still selling a little piece of your soul in exchange for the false sense of security that “belonging” to the tribe claims to give you?

 

Imagine what it would feel like to be sold on YOU, to know that a sense of belonging comes from YOU. To have 100% commitment and devotion to you, the work you are here to do, and the truth you are here to share. To no longer allow anything or anyone to manage your power. To be the true, authentic, unapologetic you, everywhere, all the time.  To know, truly, that wherever you go, there you are as YOU, not as an image you have to project or as an appearance you have to maintain – as fully, authentically you. This is so much easier than trying to be something or someone for each situation and each person you interact with. You are you. That’s it.

 

What that means for your business is your clients and community know and trust you because you stand the test of time. You don’t sacrifice your values or ideals ever. That creates trust, demonstrates integrity, and makes you someone people can believe in and rely on. And that is what people buy – real, authentic, truth.

 

Are you ready for people to buy your product or service with confidence and gusto?

If you are sick of struggling in your business only making 4 figures a month while juggling side jobs and feeling like your dream of $10k+ months seems further away than ever and your life and work will be of little significance, let’s talk.

What a Feeling – You Can Really Have It All

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As I was driving to South High School to volunteer this morning,  I could feel an uneasiness, a restlessness brewing inside me. Right at that moment, Irene Cara’s “What a Feeling” came on the radio. The words resonated with me like they never had before. “First, when there’s nothing but a slow glowing dream that your fear seems to hide deep inside your mind.” I know what I want, that dream, but my fear likes to keep me trapped in my head, analyzing.

 

“What a feeling. Being’s believing I can have it all.” That part hit me. Being IS believing I can have it all. Being is Believing. You have to BE it, first. You have to be it when there is no indication of anything changing and you can’t see the way forward. You have to be it when fear has its tight grip on you. You have to be it when you start to lose faith. You have to be it because that is who you are. You are your dream. You are everything little and big thing you have ever desired. You have to be it NOW before your dreams become reality. You have to know that being it is your only option, whether anything changes or not, you are it anyway.

 

When you hold on to this being that you are at your core, things will indeed change but that is not why you step into being the true you. You step into being the real you because you now see that not being the authentic you is what has caused almost all of your suffering. It is what has caused your struggle, lack, delay, and limitation. And you now know that even if nothing changes, you can no longer live out of alignment with the true you. You are no longer available for this way of living. You are only available to be the full, unapologetic version of you and to speak your unfiltered truth, always, no matter what.

 

When you stand in that place, without attaching to any outcome, everything will change because you have risen to answer the call of your authentic life with 100% commitment, devotion, and loyalty.

 

Are you ready to rise?

 

My 90-Day Business Breakthrough Mentorship is now accepting applications for results-driven, ready to kick butt, creative spiritual rebel entrepreneurs.

If you are sick of struggling in your business only making 4 figures a month while juggling side jobs and feeling like your dream of $10k+ months seems further away than ever and your life and work will be of little significance, let’s talk.

Screw Normal. That is not why you are here.

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Who decides what’s normal and why are ‘they’ managing the power?

 

Our deepest need is belonging so part of belonging has meant following the rules and norms so as not to upset the system. The problem is the system was set up by someone else, not you. You have forsaken you in order to be part of the tribe. The tribe never really accepted you in the first place. It was always conditional. You could be a part of the tribe as long as you followed their rules, you didn’t challenge them or their way of thinking. You are not here to get by, to settle, to diminish yourself and discount your dreams. You are here to wake up, to reclaim your worth, to take back your power, and to speak your truth unapologetically.

 

The funny thing is that while some may reject you, criticize you, or attempt to ostracize you, many will be drawn to you and will support you. You are eliminating the ones who were never really a part of your true tribe, to begin with.

 

To be you is rebellious, courageous, and essential for growth. There is no room for more carbon copies or cookie cutter versions of everyone else. It is, and has always been, the crazy ones who create new technologies and revolutionize systems; who innovate, create, and dream beyond the possible. They challenge the status quo, the current way of being and doing, as they never really fit in or bought into it. To be true to themselves means trusting themselves, no matter what, no matter how it might look, what people might say, or how many people may criticize them or reject them.

 

This above all: To thine own self be true -Polonius to Laertes Act-I, Scene-III, Hamlet.

 

Are you willing to do whatever it takes to be the real you, no matter what?

 

If you want your business to be a true reflection of you, create a life of deep significance, and step into a new level of income, impact, freedom, and fun, I invite you to message me.

 

The Answer isn’t in a book. The Answer is in ACTION.

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What are you avoiding by staying where you are? By choosing to stay in a place of confusion and uncertainty?

 

The truth is confusion feels safe. As long as you don’t know what you want, you don’t have to do anything. You get to stay where you are, and despite your complaints about it, it is familiar, which is more than you can say for the unknown should you make a change.

 

So you research, you read, you watch videos, which continues to keep you safe and stuck. Consumption is safe. Creation, action, is scary.

 

You are always creating your life – every element, every moment – by what you are choosing to do and not do. You choose to value the illusion of safety and security that staying where you are gives you more than you value making a change. Taking a risk into something new and unknown is scary because it threatens your current perception of who you are. When you decide to change, you have to let go of who you are and step into who you are becoming. You have to shed the old skin – the old beliefs, thoughts, patterns, and ways of being. It is not unlike a metamorphosis, which is extremely uncomfortable.

 

Getting back into alignment is an adjustment. It might hurt a little at first, but afterward, you notice you are walking taller, your posture has improved, and you are carrying yourself with grace and poise.  

 

What will bring you back into alignment is speaking your truth, however scary and uncomfortable it may feel. It means honoring yourself and trusting yourself. It means calling your power back and owning that YOU know what you want. When you let all the noise fade away and sit with yourself and tell yourself you will not abandon yourself ever again, you begin to hear your soul speaking to you once again.

 

This is a continual process. You don’t get adjusted one time. You adjust again and again by asking yourself, is that true? It is absolutely true that I don’t know what I want? When was a time I did know what I wanted? How did that feel? How would it feel to know, with absolute faith and clarity, what I want all the time?

Then ask yourself, Will this allow me to rise to my highest calling and fullest self-expression? Will this light me up?

 

Now, you must ACT on that knowing, even if it’s as simple as I want to go for a walk. The process of learning to trust yourself again is similar how it works in a relationship. You have to earn that trust. How you do that is to honor your inner guidance. When you get that sense or feel that nudge to do something, GO do it. Right away. Do NOT analyze it or disregard it. It doesn’t matter if it doesn’t make sense. It doesn’t have to.

 

Let go of the need to see how it’s all connected. Your only job is to follow your soul’s calling, no matter when, no matter how inconvenient, no matter what. This is what will bring you back to you and back to trusting yourself.  And then you will be able to say, clearly and confidently: This is what I want. This is who I am. This is what I am doing. This happens now. I don’t care how silly or foolish this looks or feels. I will do whatever it takes to honor my vision, my values, and my dreams, no matter what.

 

Are you ready to awaken your inner genius and align your business and life with your deepest desires and biggest dreams? Let’s talk

 

Spiritual Awakening Doesn’t Require Catastrophes or Lightning Bolts – A Straw Will Do

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I find it so interesting that it was the straw, a piece of hay, that broke the camel’s back. Not some huge heavy slab of metal – a straw.

 

It is easy to think it takes a big catastrophic event to cause change.

 

For me, the devastating losses I suffered and deep depression that almost drowned me did indeed change me, but they were merely the beginning of the awakening. Sometimes it takes longer to access the deeper part of you that needs healing.

 

For me, I did wake up and I did take different actions but the fire that was burning so bright in the wake of the losses began to fade with time. It was like a rollercoaster. I would wake up, race to the top, then slowly fall back down only to revert to old patterns and beliefs. Yet, each time, I was refining what it is I truly wanted. I would get a taste of it then the saboteur would come in and throw me back in the corner. It was this process – this accumulation of moments over time – that led to the breaking point. The point at which you finally decide – enough. ENOUGH.

 

It can be something as subtle as a comment from someone or some slight inconvenience.  It is there that you realize, you have changed. You are now NO longer available for living a watered down, small version of you. You are no longer available for holding back your truth, for limiting your self-expression, for denying your soul’s genius and your heart’s calling.

 

And so it begins, You rise, Slowly at first, Then more boldly as you start to take on the true you – your real identity. And it starts to feel really, really good.

Now you know there is no going back, You know you will never abandon yourself, forsake yourself, or discount your dreams, ever, ever again.

You know now that you will do whatever it takes, no matter what to live the life you were created for – to do the work that is written on your soul, to speak the truth you are here to share, and to have the impact you are here to have.

 

It doesn’t mean it isn’t scary anymore. It means you no longer let fear guide you. It means you remember to tap into YOUR power, first and foremost, and you remind yourself daily that true security is only found within.

 

Are you ready for your awakening? I help my clients tap into their soul’s genius, reawaken their greatness, and live in full alignment with their dreams and desires. Do you want that too? I invite you to reach out to me to learn more about working together. http://bit.ly/connectwithKori

 

 

Celebrating the true you,

Kori

Being Addicted to Being Liked Will Keep You Stuck

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Nobody likes me. Everybody hates me. I’m gonna eats some worms. Big, fat, juicy ones. Long, skinny, slimy ones.

 

I remember singing this song in choir in elementary school. I thought it was cute and funny.

 

I have actually said this in entrepreneurial circles. I was talking to the man who runs the mastermind group I am a part of and he asked, what are you afraid of?

 

I said, “That nobody likes me, everybody hates me. I’m gonna eat some worms.”

 

He laughed.

 

It always comes back to the desire for belonging.

 

He said, “Entrepreneurship is the art, science, and magic of learning to trust yourself. You have to let go of seeking approval or wanting to be liked. It comes down to you and your relationship with yourself. That’s the secret.”

 

Simple, right? But not easy.

 

Why? Because learning to trust yourself often means going against what others think. It means forging your own path instead of following someone else’s. It means you might be criticized, rejected, or kicked out of the tribe since you are no longer following anyone else’s rules.

 

You have to be willing to trust yourself, follow and act on your intuition and what you know to be true for you, no matter what.

 

You have to want to live in your truth as the greatest and fullest expression of you more than you want security and approval.  

 

You have to come to the deep knowing that your security comes from within. It does not depend on anyone or anything outside of you. With that, you have to be 100% committed to you and your path, no matter what.

 

You have to be 100% devoted to your truth, no matter what.

 

You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to live in alignment with your truth and desires, no matter what. This means acknowledging your fears and taking action in spite of them.

 

This is when you become unstoppable.

 

Nothing will ever get in the way of you living your truth, the life of your dreams, and as the highest version of you ever, ever again.

 

Let the games begin.

 

I guide my clients back to their truth, to activate their inner genius, and to live out their soul’s mission. If this is speaking to you, let’s talk.

 

To living your truth,

 

Kori